Another Rant by Bettyjean Kling
I freed a thousand slaves I could have freed a thousand more if only they knew they were slaves. ~ Harriet Tubman
Remember- Not all women are angels – not all men are devils! Some of each are both! When we talk about someone who does wrong we are not talking about the entire group just about those in that group who did wrong. It is either that or one group or the other is totally bad and the other is totally good and we know that is not possible. Therefore the following is about victims and those who victimize them not about what sex the victimizer happens to be! So get over it before you begin to read- if you got a chip go read a fairy tale – these are real stats. If you can’t handle the truth imagine what the victims are enduring while you live in la la land happily in your ignorance! If you prefer to live in reality read on! Then if you have fortitude – stand with me and let’s get moving! TMU: The Majority United – stop waiting and hoping for life to change.
I am on a tear tonight and damned it – this is going to give me trouble and I do not give a damned. Day after day after day I am getting letter after letter after letter from some so-called women’s groups telling members how to vote and what to vote for. No wonder we cannot unite- no wonder I am banging my head against the wall trying to bring the 52% together! It’ll never happen at this rate. No wonder more Conservative women want nothing to do with non-conservative women and vice versa. They each think the other hasn’t a brain one! I’m beginning to agree!
Let me give you and example. NOW has been sending out email after email telling us to vote for every pro choice candidate in the country. Still this is what we are talking about? With all the violence- in the form of murder- rape and beatings that is happening to women and girls no one is running with a heavy emphasis on VAW (Violence Against Women) issues? We are not marching for ERA and VOTE for a candidate that is pro ERA and pushing to make VAW a hate crime?
Oh and don’t think I am going to let the Conservative women off the hook either.
I have talked to Team Sarah gals and As A Mom gals. When I mention ERA or VAW- they act like I have the plague and run for the hills. These gals too have their heads up their asses. They appear to be in denial about their precious sons, preferring instead to blame someone’s wayward daughter for leading their sons astray! Apparently it’s always some bad girl’s fault according to conservative women – they are their worst enemies- it never changes.
Do they value their males more than their own females? It would appear so! Ask any mother of a male child – what a shame – their male angels can do no wrong and that is exactly why the little angels do it – because their mother’s will never believe it and always cover for them and their fathers will always say “boy’s will be boys! ” What’s worse if they have daughters they honestly believe their angel daughters who they have taught very well at home will also be perfect unless led astray by someone’s rotten son. Give me a break!
Parent’s stop living in la la land and realize what is happening to your kids and realize that your little goody goody lessons are not always going to keep them from experimenting and even if you are lucky enough to raise angels – you cannot protect them from this crazy world. Instead change the smut around them. Demand better programming, advertising, media, movies and music! You would not raise them in a bar or a crack house even though you could explain why they should not drink or do drugs so why raise them around smut from birth and expect them to believe you that it isn’t normal or right?
This is a very different world- they are bombarded every waking minute with images and words that teach your children that females are not valued. Your daughters are bombarded by visuals of starvation as beauty and beauty as important above all else except sexual appeal and sex and brutality against her body both sexual and in the form of beatings. Pornography is no longer just sexual it is now bestiality and brutal beatings and sometimes torture and death.
Your children both girls and boys are not safe in this sex crazed society – the priest or coach may rape your son AND your daughter may be taken right out of her bedroom by the gardener one night! Every two minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted, WAKE UP!
Finally, this is a super sexualized nation and all your words of wisdom is not going to keep their raging hormones from raging – ask Sarah!
And don’t bite my head off for telling you what you refuse to see! Get your head out from where ever it is you have it stuck and do something about it! You are at fault because what you do not condemn, you’ve condoned by ommission! You are not doing your kids any favors by pretending there is no elephant in the room! And remember – conservatives have perverts too!
Society has sexualized women and girls to the point that from birth — girls and boys are bombarded with suggestions that a female’s highest and best value is as a sexual object and they both believe it from very early in life. Some of those negative ideas for example: eye candy, sex toy, punching bag, personal property, trophy, slave or sex worker!
How far we have fallen when 4 women a day are slaughtered by a man they love. You liberal bitching about how many soldiers we are losing in the war – soldiers who volunteered to risk their lives to go and fight. In one year of the highest loss in the war – we lost more women to violence from the men they love then soldiers in Iraq. Where were you? You were marching in DC to stop soldiers who volunteered to fight but NOT ONE MARCH for VAW to educate anyone about the sensless slaughter, or the brutality of rape or the number of beatings of your sisters! SHAME on YOU! Why are you not marching in the streets or lending support when these women are facing these brutes in court?
Unknown thousands a day are raped by men they may or may not know and yet women’s groups continue to chant incessantly about the right to abort a possible fetus that may result from that rape but not much about all that violence unless in results in pregnancy. What- the body doesn’t count unless it gets pregnant?
Hundreds of thousands a day land in hospitals beaten by a man they love, but you worry only about rights for the gay marriage and which by proportion is the least of the majority of women’s problems. How in the name of Venus can that possibly make and damned sense at all.
And for you Conservatives – what in God’s good name are we thinking when children are raped and buried alive- did we think that God allowed that because the parent did not do in church for the Lord what you do or not pray hard enough? WAKE UP!
And you Conservatives- who the hell do you think is beating- raping and killing these women, including little girls and old ladies? Other women? Do you think all these females asked for it? SHAME on YOU! Then you wonder why there are so many female victims! Keep protecting the males like they need your protection!
Women are their own worst enemies. Liberals and Conservatives alike! WAKE UP! We need to stop this nonsense- realize what we are up against and for the sake of our sons and daughters and our country- WAKE UP – and start behaving like intelligent beings instead of Democrat and Republican robots doing what we have been breed to do! WAKE UP!
Common sense will tell you raising your children right is wonderful and the right thing to do but it is no guarantee, common sense will tell you the most important thing in your life is not your party affiliation. Ladies, we damned well better unite and stop dividing up over abortion and gay marriage. Let those who absolutely insist on those two items go fight it themselves and stop sacrificing the entire women’s movement and our country and our children for what I perceive to be a very small percentage of the population of women. I am a live and let live gal- I have gay friends and I love them dearly and they love me. But none of my gay friends are willing to sacrifice our nation or women’s rights and allow VAW nor will they be pigeon holed and held hostage to a minority issue or two. They deserve their rights but are a minority within the majority. These two are not the issues important to the majority of women in the country nor do they reflect the majority of the women of this nation? In order to unite we must unite around the majority issues not the minority issues.
Let us have the statistics on the percentage of women affected by the following enumerated issues as compared to the 100 percent of women who will benefit from passing the ERA and changing the laws on VAW?
1-The absolute need (no other alternative possible) for abortions.
2- The absolute need (absolutely no other alternative possible) for marriage for gay women
U.S. Statistics / Global / Links to Statistics
U.S. STATISTICS
Fact #1: 17.6 % of women in the United States have survived a completed or attempted rape. Of these, 21.6% were younger than age 12 when they were first raped, and 32.4% were between the ages of 12 and 17. (Full Report of the Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November, 2000)
Fact #2: 64% of women who reported being raped, physically assaulted, and/or stalked since age 18 were victimized by a current or former husband, cohabiting partner, boyfriend, or date. (Full Report of the Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November, 2000)
Fact #3: Only about half of domestic violence incidents are reported to police. African-American women are more likely than others to report their victimization to police Lawrence A. Greenfeld et al. (1998). (Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends. Bureau of Justice Statistics Factbook. Washington DC: U.S. Department of Justice. NCJ #167237. Available from National Criminal Justice Reference Service.)
Fact #4: The FBI estimates that only 37% of all rapes are reported to the police. U.S. Justice Department statistics are even lower, with only 26% of all rapes or attempted rapes being reported to law enforcement officials.
Fact #5: In the National Violence Against Women Survey, approximately 25% of women and 8% of men said they were raped and/or physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or date in their lifetimes. The survey estimates that more than 300,000 intimate partner rapes occur each year against women 18 and older. (Full Report of the Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November, 2000)
Fact #6: The National College Women Sexual Victimization Study estimated that between 1 in 4 and 1 in 5 college women experience completed or attempted rape during their college years (Fisher 2000).
Fact #7: Men perpetrate the majority of violent acts against women (DeLahunta 1997).
Fact #8: Every two minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted. (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) calculation based on 2000 National
Crime Victimization Survey. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice)
Fact #9: One out of every six American women have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. (Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey, National Institute of Justice and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 1998)
Fact #10: Factoring in unreported rapes, about 5% – one out of twenty – of rapists will ever spend a day in jail. 19 out of 20 will walk free. (Probability statistics based on US Department of Justice Statistics)
Fact #11: Fewer than half (48%) of all rapes and sexual assaults are reported to the police (DOJ 2001).
Fact #12: Sexual violence is associated with a host of short- and long-term problems, including physical injury and illness, psychological symptoms, economic costs, and death (National Research Council 1996).
Fact #13: Rape victims often experience anxiety, guilt, nervousness, phobias, substance abuse, sleep disturbances, depression, alienation, sexual dysfunction, and aggression. They often distrust others and replay the assault in their minds, and they are at increased risk of future victimization (DeLahunta 1997).
Fact #14: According to the National Crime Victimization Survey, more than 260,000 rapes or sexual assaults occurred in 2000; 246,180 of them occurred among females and 14,770, among males (Department of Justice 2001).
Fact #15: Sexual violence victims exhibit a variety of psychological symptoms that are similar to those of victims of other types of trauma, such as war and natural disaster (National Research Council 1996). A number of long-lasting symptoms and illnesses have been associated with sexual victimization including chronic pelvic pain; premenstrual syndrome; gastrointestinal disorders; and a variety of chronic pain disorders, including headache, back pain, and facial pain (Koss 1992).Between 4% and 30% of rape victims contract sexually transmitted diseases as a result of the victimization (Resnick 1997).
Fact #16: More than half of all rapes of women occur before age 18; 22% occur before age 12. (Full Report of the Prevalance, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November, 2000)
Fact #17: In 2000, nearly 88,000 children in the United States experienced sexual abuse (ACF 2002).
Fact #18: About 81% of rape victims are white; 18% are black; 1% are of other races. (Violence Against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994.)
Fact #19: About half of all rape victims are in the lowest third of income distribution; half are in the upper two-thirds. (Violence against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994.)
Fact #20: According to the Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance Survey (YRBSS), a national survey of high school students, 7.7% of students had been forced to have sexual intercourse when they did not want to. Female students (10%) were significantly more likely than male students (5%) to have been forced to have sexual intercourse. Overall, black students (10%) were significantly more likely than white students (7%) to have been forced to have sexual intercourse (CDC 2002).
Fact #21: Females ages 12 to 24 are at the greatest risk for experiencing a rape or sexual assault (DOJ 2001).
Fact #22: Almost two-thirds of all rapes are committed by someone who is known to the victim. 73% of sexual assaults were perpetrated by a non-stranger (— 38% of perpetrators were a friend or acquaintance of the victim, 28% were an intimate and 7% were another relative.) (National Crime Victimization Survey, 2005)
Fact #23: The costs of intimate partner violence against women exceed an estimated $5.8 billion. These costs include nearly $4.1 billion in the direct costs of medical care and mental health care and nearly $1.8 billion in the indirect costs of lost productivity and present value of lifetime earnings. (Costs of Intimate Partner Violence Against Women in the United States, Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Atlanta, Georgia, March 2003).
Fact #24: Domestic violence occurs in approximately 25-33% of same-sex relationships. (NYC Gay and Lesbian Anti-Violence Project, October 1996.)
Fact #25: Boys who witness their fathers’ violence are 10 times more likely to engage in spouse abuse in later adulthood than boys from non-violent homes. (Family Violence Interventions for the Justice System, 1993)
Fact #26: An estimated 50,000 women and children are trafficked into the United States annually for sexual exploitation or forced labor. (U.S. Central Intelligence Agency, 2000)
Fact #27: Somewhere in America a woman is battered, usually by her intimate partner, every 15 seconds. (UN Study On The Status of Women, Year 2000)
Fact #28: A University of Pennsylvania research study found that domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to low-income, inner-city Philadelphia women between the ages of 15 to 44 – more common than automobile accidents, mugging and rapes combined. In this study domestic violence included injuries caused by street crime.
Fact #29: Following the Supreme Court’s decision in 2000 to strike down the civil-rights provision of the Federal Violence Against Women Act (ruling that only states could enact such legislation), only two states in the country (Illinois and California) have defined gender-based violence, such as rape and domestic violence, as sex discrimination, and created specific laws that survivors can use to sue their perpetrators in civil court. (Kaethe Morris Hoffer, 2004).
Fact #30: A study reported in the New York Times suggests that one in five adolescent girls become the victims of physical or sexual violence, or both, in a dating relationship.
(New York Times, 8/01/01)
GLOBAL STATISTICS
Fact #31: At least 60 million girls who would otherwise be expected to be alive are “missing” from various populations, mostly in Asia, as a result of sex-selective abortions, infanticide or neglect. (UN Study On The Status of Women, Year 2000)
Fact #32: Globally, at least one in three women and girls is beaten or sexually abused in her lifetime. (UN Commission on the Status of Women, 2/28/00)
Fact #33: A recent survey by the Kenyan Women Rights Awareness Program revealed that 70% of those interviewed said they knew neighbors who beat their wives. Nearly 60% said women were to blame for the beatings. Just 51% said the men should be punished. (The New York Times, 10/31/97)
Fact #34: 4 million women and girls are trafficked annually. (United Nations)
Fact #35: An estimated one million children, mostly girls, enter the sex trade each year (UNICEF)
Fact #36: A 2005 World Health Organization study reported that nearly one third of Ethiopian women had been physically forced by a partner to have sex against their will within the 12 months prior to the study. (WHO Multi-country Study on Women’s Health and Domestic Violence Against Women, 2005)
Fact #37: In a study of 475 people in prostitution from five countries (South Africa, Thailand, Turkey, USA, and Zambia):
62% reported having been raped in prostitution.
73% reported having experienced physical assault in prostitution.
92% stated that they wanted to escape prostitution immediately.
(Melissa Farley, Isin Baral, Merab Kiremire, Ufuk Sezgin, “Prostitution in Five Countries: Violence and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder” (1998) Feminism & Psychology 8 (4): 405-426)
Fact #38: The most common act of violence against women is being slapped—an experience reported by 9% of women in Japan and 52% in provincial Peru. Rates of sexual abuse also varies greatly around the world—with partner rape being reported by 6% of women from Serbia and Montenegro, 46% of women from provincial Bangladesh, and 59% of women in Ethiopia. (WHO Multi-country Study on Women’s Health and Domestic Violence Against Women, 2005)
Fact #39: So-called “honour killings” take the lives of thousands of young women every year, mainly in North Africa, Western Asia and parts of South Asia. (UNFPA)
Fact #40: The Human Rights Commission of Pakistan reported that 2002 saw a 25% increase in “honor killings” of women, with 461 women murdered by family members in 2002, in 2 provinces (Sindh and Punjab) alone. (Pakistan Human Rights Commission, 2002)
Fact #41: More than 90 million African women and girls are victims of female circumcision or other forms of genital mutilation. (Heise: 1994)
Fact #42: In eastern and souther Africa, 17 to 22% of girls aged 15 to 19 are HIV-positive, compared to 3 to 7% of boys of similar age. This pattern—seen in many other regions of the world—is evidence that girls are being infected with HIV by a much older cohort of men. (UNICEF/UNAIDS 2007)
Fact #43: : A 2005 study reported that 7% of partnered Canadian women experienced violence at the hands of a spouse between 1999 and 2004. Of these battered women, nearly one-quarter (23%) reported being beaten, choked, or threatened with a knife or gun. (Family Violence in Canada: A Statistical Profile, 2005)
Fact #44: In Zimbabwe, domestic violence accounts for more than 60% of murder cases that go through the high court in Harare. (ZWRCN)
Fact #45: a study in Zaria, Nigeria found that 16 percent of hospital patients treated for sexually transmitted infections were younger than 5. (UNFPA)
LINKS TO STATISTICS:
The following are a selection of other web sites at which to find and verify violence against women statistics:
World Health Organization: Gender Based Violence
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