Terry O’Neil does NOW proud

BettyJean Kling

 I know Terry, I helped get her elected and believe me – she is much less radical than her predecessors. She is however, presiding over NOW the National Organization of Women or as it should be named more appropriately, NODW the National Organization of Democratic Women and is therefore obliged to tow the party line. And tow the party line she has as was evidenced by her latest comments this week.

When Terry ran, I had high hopes that NOW , under her leadership, would open up to all women and so those of us who voted for Sarah went to Terry’s side and voted for her over Kim Gandy. Terry the presidency by a slim eight votes and everyone there knew it was the Sarah voters that took Terry over the top. It was no secret , in fact it was the talk of the weekend culminating in the election of  June 20, 2009.

We hoped Terry would remember the moderates who helped put her in and open NOW to all women but apparently the good ol Gals and the single issue ideology that keeps women from uniting has prevented Terry from taking NOW up a notch or back in time to era when the organization’s true goal is to serve and empower all women nationwide.

 My heart skipped a beat when I heard Terry on behalf of NOW come out in support of Michelle Bachmann this week over the Newsweek cover.

“It’s the combination of they snap the photo of her with her eyes very wide – people call it ‘crazy eyed’ – plus that huge label they slap on her as the Queen of Rage,” O’Neill told ABC News’ Matthew Jaffe in a phone interview. “As much as I disagree with everything she stands for, she is a serious viable candidate for the United States presidency and there is no male viable candidate who has ever been treated this way.”

Terry hit the nail on the head, we need more women to run and they will not unless we stand up and force fairness in the media. Men are not treated the same way. Hillary, Sarah,and now Michelle—there is a pattern of sexism preventing women from holding the highest offices.

As of 2011, there were 72 women out of 435 members of the U.S. House of Representatives, and 17 women out of 100 members of the U.S. Senate. That’s just 89 women, or a mere 16.6 percent. Only 268 women have served in Congress since it was established some 222 years ago.

I applaud NOW for stepping up however, how is it Terry’s job or NOW’s to defeat conservative women?

“The main reason why we would stand up for Michele Bachmann and defend her against these kind of misogynistic attacks is we want women to run for office. Of course my job is to defeat Michele Bachmann and I intend to do so. But good women will not run for office if Newsweek magazine can do this to such a prominent politician and get away with it.” http://dailycaller.com/2011/08/08/the-national-organization-for-women-defends-bachmann-against-newsweek/#ixzz1Ud9M9O6l

Perhaps it is time to change NOW into NODW?

Support women journalists who are changing the conversation: but you won’t find them at Women’s Media Center

Another Rant by: BettyJean Downing Kling

I had just got done ranting about NOW and other women’s groups about the lack of support on the pandemic that is killing women and here comes Jehmu Greene’s group with this latest testament to their dedication to women’s issues. What really got my blood boiling was their timing. We just had a women journalist beaten and gang raped in Egypt and here they are pushing a San Francisco comedy!

WMC – kiss my ass! Inequity in the arts indeed—the inequity is in the journalistic integrity of liberal media and liberal women who would sell their sisters to the devil to keep their name in lights and stay in bed with the party who allows them to survive at the cost of their conservative or moderate sisters.

The play, no doubt, is wonderful and I support Ms. Rebeck and her comedic spin on what we are up against in the workplace whole heartedly, in fact I too will give it a plug, but has WMC forgotten the meaning of journalism? Where in hell are you in updating women and girls on the pandemic of atrocities growing against women and girls across our nation? Where the hell are you? You are not changing the conversation – you simply added a women’s group to the media but it’s the same old biased media coverage with the name women’s in front of it.

Now for the plug on some comic relief on the not so funny truth about how women remain second class citizens with the blessing of liberal women who continue to turn the other check. How do I know that? If the majority did not tolerate it – it would not be happening! That’s how! There are more of us than there are of them – too many of us are just too damned stupid and weak to unite and demand it stop!

EXCLUSIVE: Lingering Inequity in the Arts–A Comedic Take
By Emily Wilson

Theresa Rebeck’s new play, “What We’re Up Against,” at San Francisco’s Magic Theatre, opens with two men talking about a new hire in the architecture firm where they work—a young, ambitious, talented woman.

“What do we want another woman for?” Ben asks Stu, the firm’s manager. “We already have one.”

Far from being excited about their new colleague Eliza’s talent, her co-workers are outraged by her ambition. Eliza knows she’s better at her job than most of the people there, and she doesn’t stay quiet about it. She doesn’t accept being stuck in the worst office and not given anything to do.

“I want to work,” she says repeatedly, unimpressed by everyone telling her that no one really gets to do anything for the first ten years. Rebeck, a playwright and novelist, who also writes for TV and the movies, wanted to look at men and women and what happens in the workplace.

“We aren’t a country that cares about excellence anymore,” she said. “We care about internal politics.”

NOW gets it now: or are they trying to win women back for the party?

Another Rant By: BettyJean Kling

The gossip website Gawker on Thursday posted an anonymous account of a man who said he had had a one-night stand with O’Donnell three years ago on Halloween. Gawker reportedly paid the man in the “low four figures” for the account and pictures of O’Donnell dressed up like a ladybug.

The site has been widely criticized by media outlets for posting the item and was denounced Thursday by the National Organization for Women.

“NOW repudiates Gawker’s decision to run this piece,” the organization said in a statement. “It operates as public sexual harassment. And like all sexual harassment, it targets not only O’Donnell but all women contemplating stepping into the public sphere.”

Read more: http://www.politico.com/news/stories/1010/44365.html#ixzz13m4JlzvM

Well I hate to be blunt but I must. It took one hell of a lot for NOW to finally step up to the plate for a conservative woman and the woman they stepped up for is Christine O’Donnell of all Conservatives. Holy Cow! But not so fast ladies, you are a day late and a dollar short. I’ll not thank you for doing exactly what you should have been doing for the last three years beginning with the attacks on Hillary and culminating with Christine. Simply put – I don’t trust you anymore!

Politico obviously is ready to accept NOW at their word but is less   apt to trust  other Democratic shills as the author points to O’Donnell’s opponent as the source for this latest moral attack on yet another female candidate.

“Even the National Organization for Women gets it, but Christine’s opponent disturbingly does not,” Sachtleben wrote. “Classless Coons goons have proven yet again to have no sense of common decency or common sense with their desperate attacks to get another rubber stamp for the Obama-Pelosi-Reid agenda. Such attacks are truly shameful, but they will not distract us from making our case to Delaware voters — and keeping the focus on Chris Coons’s record of higher taxes, increased spending and, as he has done again here, breaking his promises to the voters.”

This disgusting trashing didn’t work on Niki and it won’t work on Christine- I only hope it’s not to late to backfire on her detractors. I am so proud of women this year who had stood up for other women and said Enough is enough! They are mad as hell and not going to take this anymore!

If NOW is sincere- I will forgive but that remains to be seen- I will be watching and so will all of us at The Majority United, we look forward to being on the same side- empowering women to stand shoulder to shoulder on those issues on which we can agree.

UPDATE- I KNEW IT- NO SOONER I HIT THE PUBLISH BUTTON I GOT THIS!
I told you they were only trying to win women back for their damned party!
They have learned batter tricks well- treat em bad throw a crumb- hit em again. 
 

NOW Calls for Nationwide MARCH Nov. 2!

MARCH to the polls, and vote as if women’s lives depend on it — because they do! Prove the pundits and our opponents wrong: Vote on Nov. 2, and bring along at least one other activist, friend or family member.

You’ve heard the buzz that women voters have given up and Democrats stand to lose this mid-term election. That will be the headlines only if we sit out this election. Pick an action, and prove them wrong:

  • Call or email every feminist you know to urge them to vote
  • Volunteer to distribute door-hangers about feminist or progressive candidates
  • Offer to phone bank for a get-out-the-vote effort. If there are no competitive races in your area or state, find a candidate you admire and volunteer to phone for them
  • Volunteer to pick up voters and take them to polling places
  • Organize a car pool for your feminist friends to make sure they vote — go to lunch or dinner afterward, and celebrate the women who fought for our right to vote

We must defend our champions in the statehouses and halls of Congress and support new feminist candidates if we ever hope to gain equal rights for women and guarantee women’s safety, economic justice and autonomy. Our opponents cannot stand the prospect of a world where women are fully equal, and we cannot stay silent as long as that world remains only a dream.

This Election Day IS a March for Women’s Lives. We cannot be silent while women are beaten, raped and murdered, while women’s futures are limited or denied by repressive and cruel fiscal and social policies meant to benefit the privileged.

NOW/PAC has endorsed strong candidates – candidates who will protect women’s rights and work to achieve equality and justice.
BACKGROUND:

Conservatives, corporate interests and Tea Party types are raising money and mobilizing like crazy. Scores of right-wing candidates with more extreme views than ever before are on the ballots. Their efforts are funded by the super-rich and big business. Decades worth of progress made by feminists on many fronts will suffer severe setbacks if ultra-conservative candidates running in this election gain power.

Republican and Tea Party candidates will continue to promote policies that favor their backers — the richest 20 percent of Americans who own 85 percent of the wealth in the U.S. and receive nearly half of all income annually. If elected, these candidates will set about undoing policies and programs that advance equality.

The already wide gap between rich and poor will increase. The social safety net — programs like Medicaid, Social Security and Medicare — will be further weakened. Critical progress on important legislative priorities will be lost, including pay equity initiatives, welfare reform and fully funding the Violence Against Women Act, among many others. Educate yourself about the issues and find the candidates who will support women’s rights.

SEND  NOW THIS MESSAGE, WE WON’T  TAKE MORE OF THE SAME

WE ARE NOT AS STUPID AS NOW AND THE DEMS THINK  WE ARE!

Terry O’Neil, Jehmu Green: Molls of the 21st Century

Another Rant By: BettyJean Kling

N.O.W. and Women’s Media Center’s Democratic molls beware, the real feminists are coming!

I had such good hopes for N.O.W. when we voted in the new president Terry O’Neil but it is obvious, NOW National and many but not all of the state organizations are nothing more than Democratic Party Molls. Most of the so-called women’s groups that don’t label themselves conservative are in fact not the non partisan groups they purport to be – but are far left partisans who make it very clear only far left need apply! Moreover, they make it very clear they vote against any woman who is not FAR LEFT. Meg Whitman for example is a female candidate who clearly is Pro-choice but is labeled a whore by CA-NOW president because – it appears- she is a republican and it also appears will not be fired for saying so even though she said it after Terry O’Neil warned the next person to say it should be fired!

 Terry O’Neil

October 13, NOW calls on Brown, to fire any member of his staff who uses this word or any hate speech against women. For Immediate Release Contact: Mai Shiozaki w. 202-628-8669, ext. 116, c. 202-595-4473 Note* original does not contain the words from this day forward which by the way is ridiculous. Why from this day forward? If the N word was used would anyone say from this day forward?

Megan Carpentier | October 14, 2010, 1:45PM

Last week, the National Organization for Women and the PAC of the California NOW chapter took heat for their endorsement of state Attorney General Jerry Brown (D) over Meg Whitman (R) in the gubernatorial race in the wake of comments by a Brown aide that Whitman was a “whore.” At the time, national NOW President Terry O’Neill said that anyone who “from here on” calls a woman a “whore” should be fired.

She might want to have a talk with California NOW President Parry Bellasalma, who today told TPM in response to a question that “Meg Whitman could be described as ‘a political whore.’ Yes, that’s an accurate statement.”

On NOW’s page they never changed the date to reflect the update – they updated the last paragraph and made a note saying so but never dated the change.At best this is an omission at worst it was an intended cover-up. Why from this day forward? If the N word was used would anyone say from this day forward? http://www.now.org/press/10-10/10-13.html

NOW: October 13, 2010

Last night at the California gubernatorial debate, Jerry Brown apologized for a member of his campaign staff suggesting Meg Whitman, his opponent in the race, be called a “whore.” This overdue apology was a necessary step; however, it was accompanied by an assertion that these sorts of comments are part and parcel of what happens inside political campaigns. If so, that needs to change.

While our California chapter’s Political Action Committee voted to endorse Brown on the basis of his support for women’s rights, the National Organization for Women clearly and unequivocally condemns calling Meg Whitman, or any woman, a whore. This term is hate speech that carries with it negative connotations associated with women, and it has no place in contemporary society.

NOW calls on Brown, from this point forward, to fire any member of his staff who uses this word or any hate speech against women.
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Update: NOW clarified this statement with the addition of “from this point forward” to the final paragraph.

Patty Bellasalma, President CA-NOW

“The abuse of employees, whether in the workplace or in the home, is not acceptable,” Bellasalma said. “It’s a pattern that’s developing about how Meg Whitman treats people who she believes are beneath her. It’s a cynical game of the Republican Party, putting up candidates who are anti-women to garner women votes superficially.”
Why is she calling Meg Whitman anti-woman, it’s because she’s pro-life right? No, she’s pro-choice, but she is a Republican!

NOW is shrinking steadily because it caters to the Democratic Party and a small group of women to the elimination of all others. NOW had become a democrat extreme left- extremely Liberal – abortion only organizations hell bent on lesbian rights rather than all women’s rights who will turn on any woman in a minute if she does not  agree on their narrow platform.

A NATIONAL organization FOR women should encompass all women, not represent the minority to the omission of the vast majority of women. NOW continues to shrink and yet they continue to define feminism based on the minority members they have come to represent co-opting the term as their own, which justifiably belongs to every women. 

ALL women includes the smaller percentage of liberal women whose choice includes gay rights and abortion but not to the exclusion of the vast majority of women made up of independent women who do not necessarily agree these are women’s main issues and conservative women who absolutely do not want to have those two issues come to identify all women.

Jehmu Green  

And did you see Jehmu Green of Women’s Media Center starting up a new website Name it Change it! Good job. So now instead of just attacking conservative women – she will just be running straight out for the Democrats. She was on Bulls and Bears this morning lauding Obama for finally telling the truth about the shovels! It appears if a Democratic POTUS comes clean at some point we forget all the lies he told before! I’ll bet you dollars to donuts she doesn’t apply that to BUSH!

Thank you Jehmu if you help the media  stop attacking women we will all be forever grateful  but don’t think for one minute that will win the Dems any of our votes back . Nice try but we have your number. Clearly you are a Moll for the Dems out there trying to win back the women’s vote! Too late! As I explained above you do not represent the majority of women! You represent the Democrats, you represent the Liberals.

What you forgot is that the majority out here is mad as hell and we are not going to take it anymore! I’ve named it – now you change it! You Democrat molls better get with the program- the majority is uniting and you are going to lose your grip on the term feminist. The real feminists are coming!

I am personally familiar with 3 state organizations MD-NOW, MI-NOW and NYS-NOW who do not fit the description above.  They support vigorous legislative programs, grassroots efforts, and have been there for anyone who has reached out for help.

Marcia Pappas
I wholeheartedly support the work of Marcia Pappas of NYS-NOW who is devoted to equality for all women and children and who supports their issues, specifically in areas of divorce, domestic violence and court bias against women. Marcia works tirelessly never asking where a women stands on various issues or what her party affiliation might be.  She has been called “the most visible activist in New York State and that is because wherever there is a women or child in need, Marcia has brought a rally there for her – in rain – sleet or snow!

Linda Mahoney
I wholeheartedly support the work of Linda Mahoney of MD-NOW who is devoted action to bring about equality for all women. NOW works to eliminate discrimination and harassment in the workplace, schools, the justice system, and all other sectors of society.

Renee Beeker
I wholeheartedly support the work of Renee Beeker of MI-NOW is the Creator and Director of the National Family Court Watch Project. An advocate for reform of the judicial system since 1996, Renee is a respected contributing member to many grassroots and professional organizations including Stop Family Violence, a national grassroots organization with a mission to organize and amplify our nation’s collective voice against domestic violence.

National Organization for Women (NOW)

There are many good people like Marcia, Linda and Renee. We need to break the Democratic stranglehold on these organizations and we can and should. We the majority need to unite and show them what a national women’s organization looks like, sounds like and acts like!

Women’s Media Center

As for Women’s Media Center (WMC), it’s been a joke up to now as evidenced by its failure to come down hard on the media and the male candidates for sexism and misogyny hurled at every woman from Hillary to the present group of women that threaten to unseat the DNC preferred choices. This group will eat their own young to get to the top—they have not the confidence to make it in their own without the party and now they are trying to patronize us and fool us into believing they are on our side. They are not!

The Majority United

The Majority United  (TMU)stands proud with ALL women. We are neither left or right nor do we lobby for or against choice or gay rights, there are specific groups that specialize on those issues, instead support all women. We are so proud of those who have the courage of their convictions and stand up for what they believe in just as the original Suffragists did. Remember these women from both sides of the aisle are teaching us weekly that we can strongly disagree on some issues, yet stand together for the equal rights of women. Women have more in common than not and no one agrees with anyone 100% of the time but we can all agree that united and mobilized  we can achieve what needs to be done . TMU has three main goals and we support women who support those goals for ALL women, children and support The Constitution and the United States of America!

TMU
IMAGINE

Empowering Women to Unite & Mobilize !

To Restore The Constitution and Ensure Equality for All

1- Achieve an  End of Violence Against Women and Children.
2- Achieve Equality, Opportunity and Justice for All – this is a Human Right.
3- Achieve Representative Government of the people, for the people and by the people as intended by the Founders.

NYS: No-Fault Divorce Legislation Vote Tuesday

Contributed By: Marcia A. Pappas,
President NOW-NYS, Inc.


NYS Assemblymember Bing A9753 & Senator Hassell-Thompson S3890

Contact the NYS Senate Judiciary Committee. On Tuesday, March 9th, at 10:00 am, the Judiciary Committee is scheduled to vote on the No Fault Divorce legislation. Divorce is complicated and this Legislation is dangerous for women and children.  In every state where No Fault Divorce has become law, the results have been devastating for women and children.  Experts will tell you that the reason this  happens is that No Fault Divorce takes away the bargaining  power from women.  This means that a husband/father can literally walk away and leave women and children in a state of poverty. 

Below is a complete list of the Judiciary committee. Just copy and paste their emails into your address box and send an email to all of them at once.  Tell them that you opposed No Fault Divorce! 

NYS Assemblymember Bing A9753 & Senator Hassell-Thompson S3890

eadams@senate.state.ny.us,  bonacic@senate.state.ny.us, breslin@senate.state.ny.us, jdefranc@senate.state.ny.us, diaz@senate.state.ny.us, dilan@senate.state.ny.us, espada@senate.state.ny.us, hassellt@senate.state.ny.us, jdklein@senate.state.ny.us, lanza@senate.state.ny.ustate.ny.us, lavalle@senate.state.ny.us, leibell@senate.state.ny.us, maziarz@senate.state.ny.us, ranz@senate.state.ny.us , nozzolio@senate.state.ny.us,  onorato@senate.state.ny.us,  perkins@senate.state.ny.us,  , saland@senate.state.ny.us, savino@senate.state.ny.us, schneide@senate.state.ny.us, volker@senate.state.ny.us, winner@senate.state.ny.us, sampson@senate.state.ny.us  

NOW-NYS strongly opposes A-9753/S3890. This bill has a large loop hole in the wording.   It states that “Except under exigent circumstances placed on the record by the court, no judgment of divorce shall be granted under this subdivision unless and until” certain conditions are met.  NOW-NYS questions this wording as we wonder who defines “exigent circumstances” and exactly what these circumstances might be.  Further this loosely worded legislation leaves a large window for abuse by the monied spouse (usually the husband). 

New York is currently a fault state. That means that if you want a divorce, and your spouse does not agree, you must have grounds. The two most common grounds are cruel and inhuman treatment and abandonment.

New York State also has one no-fault ground. It is a bi-lateral no-fault ground. If both parties want to divorce they negotiate a separation agreement, which is a contract spelling out all the terms which a court would decide, such as custody, child support, maintenance (formerly called alimony) and property division. Then after living apart for one year, the agreement becomes the ground for the divorce.

The NYS Legislature continues to consider proposals for unilateral no-fault divorce. This amounts to “divorce on demand.” Either party can go into court, say the marriage has broken down, and get a divorce. No grounds are necessary. Additionally, under all the bills that have been proposed to date in New York State, fault would not be considered in determining alimony, maintenance or property division. Under all the proposed bills the judge wouldn’t hear the facts, behavior and circumstances that led to the break-up of the marriage. Will the judge hear these facts in custody disputes? We are not sure.

Currently, separation and divorce are negotiated by couples. This is how approximately 95% of divorce cases in New York are resolved: by the parties themselves, not by the judge, without going to court. This is the best possible process.

The proposed change in the law to no-fault would be for only approximately 5% of  parties who cannot or who refuse to reach a settlement. Laws should not be change or passed for only 5% of the population.

No-fault takes away any bargaining leverage the non-monied spouse has. Currently she can say “If you want a divorce I’ll agree, but you have to work out a fair agreement.” That is not “blackmail” as has been claimed by some no-fault proponents. Negotiating the terms of the break-up of a partnership is the way partnerships are dissolved in the business world.

 Women should have the same protection. Another benefit of separation agreements is that couples can agree to terms that the court cannot order. One notable example is child support until graduation from college. The court may order child support only up to the child’s 21st birthday. Without a separation agreement with this provision included, children are left to finish college under severe financial hardship, or to drop out.

In fairness, any partner to a marriage should be provided with notice that the other partner wants a divorce and given an opportunity to negotiate the terms for the divorce. With “divorce on demand,” not only can the more-monied spouse begin hiding assets (which happens even under our current laws), but this spouse can proceed quickly with legal actions before the other spouse, with limited means, even has the time to find and hire an attorney.

Who is pushing for no-fault? The push was begun by the New York State Bar Association, whose wealthy clients just want out of the marriage without negotiating an agreement. They would rather have the case go to court to decide the issues of custody, child support, maintenance and property division. Should domestic relations law be changed to satisfy only the needs of wealthy clients or to help the legal profession gain more fees? Current law encourages private settlements. In contrast, the Bar Association proposal would flood the court with cases. There is another downside: The Office of Court Administration does a periodic study of gender bias, and they acknowledge that gender bias against women still permeates the court system.

The Women’s Bar Association has reversed its long standing opposition to no-fault divorce and is now going along with the NY State Bar. Attorneys in the Women’s Bar Association have some clients who want out of the marriage and have no grounds. But the Women’s Bar Association also says that women are doing so well financially they no longer need the protection of fault grounds. However, on December 24, 2006, The New York Times published an article entitled “Scant Progress Closing Gap in Women’s Pay.” The sub-title was “For College Graduates, the Disparity Worsens.” It doesn’t seem that most women are doing so well in the workplace.

A small number of attorneys who represent victims of domestic violence want no-fault because their clients are being denied divorces by some judges who tell them that the domestic violence they suffered is not severe enough to be considered cruelty that would warrant a divorce.

NOW-NYS has worked on the national and state levels to raise the issue of domestic violence, to reduce its incident rates, and to develop legal strategies under criminal and civil laws to help victims. New York’s domestic relations laws should not be changed to disadvantage a majority of women, especially homemakers with children, because a few judges are not following the law. It is the judges who have to be changed or removed. We need thorough judicial education to enlighten judges as to the meaning of domestic violence. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn’t necessarily mean a woman will appear in court with black eyes and broken bones.

The National Organization for Women (NOW-NYS) has a long standing position of opposition to unilateral no-fault divorce. Our opposition is based upon the study of the harmful effects of no-fault laws on women and children in other states.

We must look at the socio-economic standing of women in our society. Women clearly continue to be the non or lesser monied spouse, as women continue to give up careers and financial independence for the role of housewife and mother. For this reason alone we must look closely at how divorce affects the lives of women and children and the role that the state should play to ensure that homemakers and children not be left destitute after divorce.

In 1987, 17 years after California enacted the first no-fault law in the country, California’s Senate issued a report entitled Report on Family Equity which found, among other things, that no-fault had created “unintended hardships” for women and children.

Ten years later, in 1997, the prestigious Family Law Quarterly put out by the American Bar Association published an article by Peter Nash Swisher, Professor of Law, at the University of Richmond (Virginia) Law School. Professor Swisher studied the effects of no-fault all over the country. In the article he states that “when no-fault divorce was first introduced in most states, a disturbing number of courts failed to provide adequate financial protection to women and children of divorce.”

Swisher goes on to say, “Consequently, many children of divorce have suffered long-lasting psychological, as well as economic, damage resulting from divorce. Indeed, a number of commentators have concluded that the no-fault divorce revolution in America has failed.” Swisher recommends that, at the very least, even in states with no-fault grounds, fault should be considered in maintenance and property division, as it is in approximately 38 states.

Divorce reform is needed. However, NOW-NYS sees the most urgent need as a strong bill regarding expert and legal fees. The party in control of the finances should be ordered to pay meaningful expert and legal fees to the other party during the divorce proceedings in order to ensure both parties have a level playing field. Further, we must ensure that the lesser monied spouse is covered with health insurance and that any move by a party to hide assets results in meaningful penalties to that party. Let’s have both parties equally represented, see how that works and then, and only then, consider unilateral no-fault divorce.

Sexualization of America 6 of 12

Another Rant By: BetyJean Kling

I am not in this for myself but for all women to be freed from that which binds them both from the left and from the right. Women are the loosers here- they always are and it must stop NOW. We must stop it NOW.  Have ya ever heard give em enough rope and they’ll hang themselves? Well let’s not give them enough rope to hang all of us!

My beef is the time, resources and money So-called women’s groups spend on one or two  issue at the expense of all the others. This issues are important to the women that it pertains to – thus they feel it should be important to all women. Fair enough. Conversely, what about the other issues that pertain to the rest of us?

 This alone is what is behind my anguish not this damned ad but the insinuations of collusion and the overwhelming  voracity with which they go after this particular issue and nearly ignore  the suffering of women on so many other fronts!

Now let’s talk about equal access or coverage from NOW on the issues I have highlighted over and over again? 

It seems to me these so-called women’s groups think women have only two issues on their minds. Let’s educate them!

In addition to choice about our own bodies and the right to marriage between loving lesbian couples, we have all the same issues any man has such as war, taxes, health care, jobs, insurance, and a whole host of other issues and in additions we have child care, spousal abuse, equal pay, sexism, harrassment, equality, and a lack of representation in our government. They did not speak up about this CBS program did they?

To top it all off we are seriously sexualized by the very same media outlet that they are now barking about for finally showing a woman as a loving mother instead of eye candy or a piece of ass! Not to mention the depiction of our daughters as shown here in this Lee Jeans soft porn, Not a word from Jehmu orTerry- how does that bode on women?

If that doesn’t make loberals look like they hate children – I am not sure what it does say!  The face of women they portray to the world is not the only face women of this country and not the face ALL women want to be portrayed as. They have absolutely no right to depict women this narrowly and they must be called out for it!  

The left adds fuel to the fires of the the rights accusations re: “Liberals kill babies and hate children”.  Why must I be called either a liberal child hater or a Right Wing Nut because two radical groups choose to place women in one camp or the other?

I REPEAT- I demand my right to freedom of choice and I will not be pigeon holed by NOW or any other so-called liberal woman’s group or else be thrust into the radical right wing conservative pit instead as if there are only two kinds of women in this world.

How dare Terry O’Neil of NOW  insinuate anyone ok with the ad must neccessarily

 “be in collusion with radical right wing”  and “make no mistake: that agenda includes overturning Roe v. Wade and making abortion “illegal and unthinkable”

This is going over the top and I refuse to have all women placed in the either or camp anymore. I am speaking out and I invite others to stand up and tell ALL womens groups from all sides to speak for themselves – we are INDIVIDUALS now sheep!

No– there are actually FREE THINKERS who refuse to be either or and I am only one of millions who will no longer sit quietly by and allow either the right or the left to vilify us ever again and then wonder why we are labeled Bitches and Cunts and treated like either dirt on welcome mats or objectified to be used, abused and cast aside and possibly murdered.

I remember the ad for Virginia Slims- <em>You’ve come a long way Baby!</em> Think about that- We were actually allowed to kill ourselves — Just because you are free to do what you want with your body does not mean anything you want to do with it is the right thing to do or good for your body- or perhaps it is but let that be my decision – not yours! 

Virginia Slims made money on liberation- NOW made money on liberation – Manufacturers make money on liberation ,  Ad companies are getting rich but WE STILL ONLY MAKE 77 CENTS ON THE DOLLAR !

To top it all off our children from the minute they are born are seeing images of females like this and hearing debates like this! What the hell can we be thinking? Is this what they fought to be free for– to be used and abused  as the source of everyone else’s pleasure? How’s that working out for you? Let’s stop it now! 

Do you much Terry O’Neil’s yearly salary? How about Jehmu Greene?  Before you send in another cent- demand to know! Then decide if she is worth it- and if those she does represent can cover her expenses alone and if so let them.

I think the following quote applies to women’s groups more so than political parties in-as- much as these groups were founded for the express purpose of empowering women and not a political agenda. If we fail to respect our selves – we deserve what we get!

 “No Self Respecting Woman Should Wish or Work for the Success of a Party That Ignores Her Sex.” Susan B. Anthony 1872

Feminists screwed again!

Another Rant by: Bettyjean Kling

I was going to go off on another rant but Phyllis Chesler did it so much better than I ever could have, so I am going to send you to her blog piece. Suffice it to say MS. Magazine and Kim Gandy can kiss my sweet bippy for selling this man as a feminist. So far he has not done a damned thing for them and their signature issue nor for ERA or much of anything for stopping violence against women which is the single most detrimental issue facing women here and the world over! If that is what a feminist looks like the women’s groups need to fold up their tents and go home.  Ladies better join up with some real women and start looking at the real issues that affect all of us and our country and our futures as American citizens!

Women’s Reproductive Rights Thrown Under Obama’s Bus

by Phyllis Chesler Pajamas Media November 10, 2009

Excerpt:

After Obama was elected, Ms. magazine ran a cover with an image of him opening his shirt, Clark Kent style, to reveal a T-shirt which reads: “THIS IS WHAT A FEMINIST LOOKS LIKE.”

Given how quickly reproductive rights were just jettisoned in the House, and mainly by Democrats, I wonder if there is any breast-beating going on over there. I certainly hope so, but I doubt it.

It seems like only yesterday that Hillary was running against Barack—but it also seems like a hundred years ago.

However, long before the Ms. magazine cover, I remember The List, which first came out during the Democratic primary race. I was shocked and disheartened by it. How could so many educated American women be so foolish, so desperate, so easily conned? 

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