Rick Santorum is a shameful chauvinist who should go home and care for Bella

BettyJean Downing- Kling

Which is it Rick- Is the little woman’s place in the home or in a combo position? Let me see if we the women of America can figure this out based on your latest clarification of  who Rick Santorum is and where he stands on where women belong!

In a concession speech given just as rival Mitt Romney won the Republican presidential primaries of Arizona and Michigan, Santorum took the chance to tell voters “a little more about who Rick Santorum is” and sang the praises of his 93-year-old grandmother, his wife Karen, a former lawyer and nurse who gave up work to raise their family, and their daughter Elizabeth who campaigns for her dad on her own.

“I grew up with a very strong mom, someone who was a professional person who taught me a lot of things about… balancing work and family, and doing it well, and doing it with a big heart and commitment,” he said. http://blogs.reuters.com/talesfromthetrail/2012/02/29/rick-santorum-makes-appeal-to-women-new-campaign-strategy/

Now as if I give a rat’s pitudy about what you or any other male candidate thinks about what ‘we the majority’ of the electorate aka we the people of the United States of America, should do or can or cannot accomplish, or where we belong or don’t belong. Let me preface the following by saying – It is none of your damned business what we the women of America do, see, say, or want! But having said that I would like to recap your positions this far.

This is what we know from before We the ‘American Women’ sent you a message from Michigan:

We know women do not belong the front lines where they can be a distraction, recently suggesting that women serving in the front lines of battle would compromise military missions because men might get emotional seeing a woman in harm’s way.

We know Santorum once remarked that “radical feminists” were undermining the traditional home and called contraception dangerous. You have certainly proven that by keeping your wife home, happily impregnated nearly half of the last 20 years of your marriage.

 We know you had a falling out with former presidential candidate Michele Bachmann’s campaign over an email one of his staffers sent questioning whether or not God wanted a woman to be president. Watch his speech here from the Washington Post blog.

Next time remember the ladies you Neanderthal- we can and will take you to the mats! I assume you got the message based on the groveling at our feet last night but ALAS  – you are too late.  Exit polls in Michigan help explain the shift. Santorum trailed Michigan winner Mitt Romney by 5 points among women, but only 1 point among men. Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2012/02/29/santorum-softens-pitch-after-double-defeat/#ixzz1nnRT3PAU

This is what you want us to believe NOW:

“But my mom’s a very unusual person for her time. She’s someone who did get a college education in the 1930s, and was a nurse, and got a graduate degree, even, as a nurse, and worked full time. And when she married my dad, they worked together at the Veterans Administration. That’s where they met, right after the war. And later on, they had me and the rest of the family, my brother and sister, and my mom continued to work. She worked all of my childhood years. She balanced time, as my dad did, working different schedules, and she was a very unusual person at that time. She was a professional who actually made more money than her husband.” Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2012/02/29/santorum-softens-pitch-after-double-defeat/#ixzz1nnQxuinH

You decided to change your tune sir and I’m not buying it and if I have anything to say about it – neither will I let anyone else! First you tried to use Conservatives and now you are trying to bamboozle Independents and …. Nah you can’t be trying to get liberals not even you are that dumb!

For example, stating men and women signed the declaration of independence was patronizing. Next, reminding your audience that you recruited a perfectly good lawyer and nurse to sit home having children and home schooling them – just pissed me off even more and I am a fairly conservative woman! I also remember my PA tax dollars paying for expensive private schools they didn’t actually attend because you all resided and home schooled in VA while family members lived in the house you kept in PA.

Rick took $100000 from a struggling Pennsylvania public school district to pay for Unfortunately, Rick and his family live in suburban Virginia, not Pennsylvania, … but in private he takes every advantage he can for himself and his own family. http://santorumexposed.com/pages/issues/issues-tax.php

His wife Karen, Santorum said, was a recruit to his law firm who then decided to leave—to stay home and raise her children. “But she also found time to be an author of two books,” Santorum added, stressing that his family, like him, has always found a way to balance professional careers and families.

“[Karen] worked as a nurse, but after we got married, she decided to walk away, yet didn’t quit working. She was a mother, and also wrote two books,” http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2012/02/santorum-focuses-on-reaching-out-to-women-adviser-says-they-are-a-macgyver-campaign/

Tell me Rick how did your wife Karen Santorum a former neonatal nurse balance her career professions as nurse or lawyer while continually bearing  a total of 8 children since 1992? You call writing 2 children’s books in all these years a fair balance? I call it a professional consolation prize considering her place is now at your side far from home and a dying baby!

In addition, you have your daughter, Elizabeth 20, stand behind you like a star stuck teen looking like a zombie daughter?  You lost a child and now the 3 year old baby Bella is not being cared for by mom and dad at home but instead is fighting for her life alone while you and Karen and Elizabeth are campaigning and shamelessly evoking pity for dying Bella! She is being used as a lapel pin instead of you and your family staying home with her in what may very well be her last days on earth. We are equal human beings- run your wife for office and you stay home you big jerk!  Or better yet, go back to PA you don’t belong in the big leagues in 2012- women outside your home are not your pawns!

So I will ask again which is it Rick- Is the little woman’s place in the home or in a combo position which best suits her man’s needs?  Are you again showing us by example what is expected of us women by a modern day womanizer? Karen leaves her profession to stay home to bear and educate your babies until she and Elizabeth are needed to prop you up on the campaign trail? Sadly, you are both needed at home right now and the women of America – will probably be sending you home fairly soon.

Yes Rick – you owe BELLA- go home! None of you is balancing profession and family very well and you have not a leg to stand on to preach to others how best to do this!

Louisa served with DIVORCE papers

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To add insult to injury, Louisa’s husband has just had us served with divorce papers. This will set him free and allow him to remove her health care leaving her with nothing more than medicaide and second rate care for the rest of her life! The abuse never fails to amaze me!

The 60 year old retired laborer is entitled to full medical, eye and dental coverage at no cost for himself and his wife for life unless and until they divorce! This will leave Louisa without the benefits she needs to sustain her health and well being. Dumping her on the state medicaid roles is unfair to her and the NJ taxpayers and it renders her unable to get full and proper care!

Plantif demands judgment as follows:

Dissolving of the marriage on the grounds “The parties have lived separate and apart for a period of 18 months and there is no reasonable prospect of reconciliation.”

As Louisa’s new Guardian, I am hoping to find a divorce attorney who will take her case here in Bergen County NJ and fight to  have her husband  keep her insured. Louisa cannot possibly get her own insurance under these conditions and she is entitled to keep her private health care rather than  having to resort to State benefits  because  he choses to  abandon her and take her care away!

Governor Christie exploits Whitney Houston’s death

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This is a teachable moment. If we are going to use Whitney – let it be to save a life – let her death save someone else- do not glorify her lifestyle and raise flags!

“Our lives begin to end the day we remain silent about things that matter.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Whitney Houston from Newark, New Jersey was one of my very favorite singers. She was arguably the greatest female singer of our time, a terrific actress, a beautiful woman and a mother and daughter deserving the full and  just respect of any human being.  But this woman  also made some poor choices and ended up a junkie, was a poor example for her daughter who it appears may be following in her mother’s footsteps. Her family also deserves respect. BUT she was not an American patriot whose death was deserving of the lowering of our flag in her honor!

Governor, leadership is a word we are all familiar with and we use in many applications and connotations on a daily basis.  For the basis of this discussion, let’s examine the following definition for leadership: The process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task.  I would argue that this definition underscores both the positive and negative aspects of leadership.

It’s a damned shame when you would set up a scenario that would lead our young people to continue to idolize a superstar junkie instead of using the facts as a teachable moment! It is even worse when you exploit her in her death to promote your state!

Were you and Newark’s Mayor Cory Booker in on this together? Once that fiasco backfired, were you were stuck with the lowered flag? Well you deserve to be held by the short hairs and forced to stick to the plan that uncovers where you family values really are!

There will be NO public memorial service for Whitney Houston at the 18,000-seat Prudential Center in Newark, NJ … because Whitney’s family didn’t want one — this according to the City Mayor Cory Booker.

A rep for the Mayor’s office tells TMZ, “The Houston family has no plans to set up a public viewing at the Prudential Center this Friday” — despite several reports claiming there was going to be a massive public ceremony … in addition to previously-scheduled private funeral arrangements.

The rep claims the family specifically asked the city NOT to plan a memorial event — adding, “In compliance with the family’s wishes the city is not moving forward with any public ceremony.” http://www.tmz.com/2012/02/14/newark-mayor-whitney-houston-public-memorial/

Gentlemen, Whitney was given appropriate awards for her acting and singing accomplishments – she did nothing to warrant the lowering of the US Flag! As a NJ tax payer and American Citizen I am ashamed to see the Governor of our state bestow such an honor to a singer who lived her life on the edge and left such a legacy for her daughter!

Louisa waits: Sentencing POSTPONED Again, Defense prepares a leniency filing!

Sentencing POSTPONED Again
From 1/27 – To 2/24 -To  3/23
Justice delayed is Justice denied

Help get Justice for Louisa

URGENT- the squeaky wheel gets the oil! I’m Louisa’s Mom and I need your help. Here are three things you can do to help! What would you do if this were your daughter?  You too would not stop or give up reaching out – looking for JUSTICE. Neither will I – if you have not already done so – please help- we still have time to get hundreds more letters out. It has come to my attention the Defense is asking for leniency! The sentencing has already been postponed twice now they need another postponement because the defense attorney needs time to files a motion for leniency for George. George plead guilty to all 10 counts against his Lawyers wishes and now his lawyer is trying to get him the best possible outcome—but his client has already told the sorry story to the judge.

Can you hear me now? His high priced attorney is begging for LENIENCY on behalf of his client who plead guilty to 10 counts including 2 counts of attempted murder – on which left my daughter missing half of her head, half a brain and almost no life at all!

Come see pictures of my daughter – who is going to show her leniency and replace her missing skull, eye, jaw, right half of her brain and memory? Who will give her the ability to sit, stand walk and eat? Who will give her any kind of life back? Leniency for poor George?

THIS is not a case of retribution it is a case of accountability! Justice demands George is held accountable for his actions! No leniency!

Now we also have time to ask for leniency – but not for George! Updates to her story are available please follow the enclosed links. While there please leave comments and find information on how you can help with fair sentencing.  We are urging concerned citizens to write to the judge requesting George Hartwig be sentenced to the full extent of the law.

1- We need hi visibility and we hope we can get it at the newspaper contact  http://www.northjersey.com/news big-time! The higher the interest in this cases the better the chances we will get results of fair sentences, He came to kill me: Don’t think for one moment he didn’t succeed. at the record, direct readers to the family blog where they can find updated pictures of Louisa and her condition now!

2- PLEASE We need hi visibility and we hope we can get it on the internet –  blog about it -or leave comments on our blog, tweet  it and by all means spread the word on Facebook..  Please come  https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2012/01/13/victim-impact-statement-let-me-be-the-face-of-dv-reform/#comments and leave your comments – leave a record of your concern for posterity.

3- It is URGENT our Comments and letter to the judge are respectful and support of  consecutive sentencing rather than the plea deal offered by the prosecutor and rejected by the defendant in lieu of lesser sentence because George says “He was very intoxicated”.

One sample letter below. Other samples and copies of your letters will be appreciated in the comments section at Louisa’s Blog:

The Honorable Liliana S. DeAvila-Silebi
Judge of the Justice Court of Bergen County New Jersey
10 Main Street
Hackensack, New Jersey 07601

Case# 09-06-1226-I, New Jersey vs. George Hartwig Sentencing scheduled for March 23, 2012

Dear Judge Liliana DeAvila-Silebi,

I am writing as a concerned citizen interested in fair and equal justice for women, about the case of George Hartwig and his violence against his wife, Denise Richardson, and his sister-in-law, Louisa Rodas. This case, as you well know, is one of the most tragic accounts of domestic violence in recent memory. I have followed this case closely since these crimes were committed by George Hartwig in December of 2008.

It is apparent to me, and to most women alive today, that the law does not adequately protect women from abusers known and unknown, and that the convention in law is to allow for lesser sentences when a man abuses a person, especially a woman or child, that he knows and has a relationship with. This seems completely upside down to me. A man who perpetrates violence against a woman with whom he has a relationship–whatever that relationship–should receive a harsher, not a lesser sentence. Women should, without question, expect that the men in their lives will at the very least do them no physical harm.

George Hartwig has a long history of criminal activity, including domestic violence and drug/alcohol charges. If the law had done its job when it released him after he had bashed in the skull of his wife to secure her pain medications for himself, Louisa might still be the functioning, smiling woman she was before George Hartwig shot her. The law will have to live with that black stain up it, but it can take action to correct this wrong.

I am writing to ask you to sentence George Hartwig to the maximum sentences that are allowed for the 10 crimes he’s been charged with, and that you order these sentences to be served consecutively. Doing this will send a powerful message to the women of today that the law will have their backs when they are victims of a crime at the hands of a loved one. It will also serve as a powerful message to the men in your community that violence against women they are supposed to love and cherish will not be tolerated by the society in which they live. You have the power to deliver this message, to stop giving this man more chances to harm more women, including Betty Jean Kling, whose life will be in danger if he is ever released. I urge you to do the right thing and deliver this message in the form of your sentence upon George Hartwig.

I thank you for taking the time to consider my appeal and the appeals of others who are interested in seeking fair and equal justice for  women who suffer domestic violence.


Virginia Senate passed the bill to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment

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rewritten and paraphased from a post by Diana Egozcue VA.

Update:TWEET the following 140 characters:

R/T- Sen. Reeves & Vogel  VA. voted 4 ERA in Comm. but AGAINST it in the full Senate- Please Join us to Tweet & FB to show Gals will remember 

From Virginia:

There was Great news on Tuesday when the Virginia Senate passed the bill to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment to the US Constitution. It was a bipartisan vote of 24-15.

Now the bill goes to the House of Delegates, to a hostile Privileges and Elections Committee, which earlier refused to even give the bill a hearing. Diana Egozcue will be trying to persuade Delegate Mark Cole – the committee chair – to hear the ERA bill, Senate Resolution (SJR 130). She needs your help. Please e-mail or call Delegate Cole and ask him to hear SJR 130 in committee and give ERA a fair chance.

His e-mail is DelMCole@house.virginia.gov, and his phone number is 804-698-1088.

Also please call Speaker Bill Howell at (804) 698-1028. Ask him to please bring this bill to the House floor for a vote this session.

We just want an up or down vote in the full House – that’s only fair, right? Letting it languish in committee is insulting and unfair.

Before the Senate vote, there was a wonderful debate about the bill on the Senate floor. Senators Barker (our sponsor), Saslaw, and Yvonne Miller were magnificent in their defense. Senator Miller’s impassioned comments about being a woman could bring you to tears. – Diana Egozcue

You can view the debate in the Senate here. It may take a few minutes to download this but it’s worth it!! Remember to thank these senators below for fighting for ERA.

Senator Barker= 804-698-7539, district39@senate.virginia.gov

Senator Saslaw= 804-698-7535, district35@senate.virginia.gov

Senator Yvonne Miller= 804698-7505, district05@senate.virginia.gov

The Politics of the Vote

Senators Reeves and Vogel voted for the ERA in committee to get it to the floor but voted against it on the floor. This was a political ploy so they can tell their constituents they voted for it, but they don’t have to say where they voted for it. If you live in their districts, just remember to spread the word that they are not for women. (Senator Reeves represents the 17th Senate District, which includes Fredericksburg City and Orange County and part of Albemarle County, Culpeper County, Louisa County, and Spotsylvania County. Senator Vogel represents the 27th Senate District, which includes Clarke County, Fauquier County, Frederick County, Winchester City and part of Culpeper County, Loudoun County and Stafford County.) – Diana Egozcue

Nothing’s Impossible

I know some of you get tired with all the demands for e-mails about all these bills, but we have to let our legislators know we WOMEN are out here, we vote, we will be spreading the word about their votes and sponsorships of these bills, and we will be finding opponents to run against them next election. This might seem impossible to you, but Wisconsin and Ohio have shown us that anything is possible if you try. So many people told me that this fight for the ERA was dead and nobody cared, but that’s not true. We just have to make Virginians know that we are here and serious about fighting against this war. We have to volunteer for candidates, give our money if possible, and vote. Make sure you attend elected officials’ meetings with constituents and participate in their telephone town halls to make your views heard. Don’t let the opponents of the bill continue to dominate the soap box of public opinion.

Sandy Oestreich honored with the Failure is Impossible Award!

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Press Release, IMMEDIATE  February 3, 2012 
CONTACT:  Lauren Hallahan, 727 643-9063

FLORIDA’S MARTIN COUNTY LEAGUE OF WOMEN VOTERS BESTOWS Susan B. Anthony Award   upon the National Equal Rights Amendment Alliance
St. Petersburg (FL)–  Founder-President of the National Equal Rights Amendment Alliance and former League of Women Voters member Sandy Oestreich of St. Petersburg will be honored with the Failure is Impossible Award for her Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) initiative on February 20, 2012. Contact for RSVP: Betty Paterson  1-772-288-3283.

Martin County League of Women Voters acknowledges Ms. Oestreich’s enduring and pro bono
effort to achieve passage of the ERA into the U.S. Constitution.  Ms. Oestreich began her ERA career in the 1970s by marching in New York, Virginia and other states to bring the Equal Rights Amendment to full 38-states’ ratifications status so it could pass. 

In 2001 she resumed her ERA campaign in partnership with Florida League of Voters while on their board and while in local elected office in 2001, speaking on the ERA issue regularly throughout Florida, the southeast, and in D.C.   Sandy says, “We only need three (3) more states to ratify ERA for passage into the Constitution.  Florida’s most influential state legislators  refuse to hold hearings to vote on ERA because they say, “ERA will ‘hurt’ business”.  Not so.   ERA language has raised the GDP in other countries by up to NINE PER CENT, boosts state tax revenues and cuts taxpayer expenses for food stamps, Medicaid, court costs and Public Assistance!   And, ERA requires no funding.” 

Ms. Oestreich’s non-profit corporations have grown to nearly 300,000 individual members in 326 major organizations, national and international. Her work has worked has resulted in annual ERA ratification bill filings before the Florida legislature since 2003. She helps mentor some of the 6 other states as ERA leaders legislators file their ERA bills; they refer to the ERA http://www.2PassERA.org web site’s documented “Facts for Legislators”.

To clarify that ERA is “still viable and contemporaneous”, Oestreich’s ERA Inc. joined with 3 other states’ ERA leaders and Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin (D-Wisconsin) to create and file the brand-new U.S. Congressional HJRes 47 ERA bill on March 2011. This bill seeks to eliminate the time limit mentioned in the original Equal Rights Amendment’s Proposing Clause that can sometimes cause unnecessary obstructions. “Substantive legal arguments exist to show that is a toothless objection.  We want to discard this red herring so that ERA can pass, bringing Florida and the nation into the 21st century along with every nation since WWII”, Oestreich said.

Sandy is an original TMU board member – we are so proud of Sandy O.

Go Sandy Go!

DOMA (The Defense of Marriage Act) is UNCONSTITUTIONAL !

BettyJean Downing

First Amendment prohibits the federal and state governments from establishing a religious and therefore official marriage!

Today the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals affirmed that Proposition 8, the California ballot initiative that eliminated same-sex couples’ right to marry, violates the U.S. constitution. In a 2-1 ruling, the court said the proposition “serves no purpose, and has no effect, other than to lessen the status and human dignity of gays and lesbians in California.”

There is no Constitutional discussion regarding marriage rights in the United States. Without legal standing to deny anyone the benefit thereof marriages between loving, committed couples must be legally recognized.

Many are working for passage of the Respect for Marriage Act that would repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which prohibits federal recognition of same-sex marriage, depriving lesbian and gay couples of protections that heterosexual couples enjoy.

It seems pretty clear to me that there is no need for either act as there is nothing in the Constitution that deprives any citizen of their natural rights. Marriage between same sex couples or the prohibition thereof is strictly a religious debate and The Constitution has CLEARY stated the government shall make no laws regarding an official religion. That means the government has made laws regarding marriage as an official religious issue and even when it occurs in a civil ceremony where it is also obviously treated as an official religious marriage as well

The legal philosophy known as Declarationism seeks to incorporate the natural rights philosophy of the United States Declaration of Independence into the body of American case law on a level with the United States Constitution.

What we should have is a separation of marriages. In religious marriages, ceremonies and rules apply according to their own rules and rites. In civil ceremonies marriages are recognized by the civil society. BUT in the eyes of our government both must be treated the same to be in harmony with the Constitution and all citizens are entitled to the same benefits regardless of their religion, or ceremony as per the Constitutional and Human rights .

The establishment clause is “[t]he First Amendment provision that prohibits the federal and state governments from establishing an official religion, or from favoring or disfavoring one view of religion over another.” Therefore since the marriage argument we are currently experiencing is a purely a religious one it falls under the same protections. In the opinion of any sober individual then, DOMA is illegal under The First Amendment.

How does the following stand up under the Constitution as fair? Where in the Constitution does it guarantee the financial benefits of Marriage to one man and one woman that two men or two women are not entitled to?

The Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) (Pub.L. 104-199, 110 Stat. 2419, enacted September 21, 1996, 1 U.S.C. § 7 and 28 U.S.C. § 1738C) is a United States federal law whereby the federal government defines marriage as a legal union between one man and one woman. Under the law, no U.S. state (or other political subdivision) may be required to recognize as a marriage a same-sex relationship considered a marriage in another state. The law passed both houses of Congress by large majorities and was signed into law by President
Bill Clinton on September 21, 1996.

The law, specifically Section 3, codifies the non-recognition of same-sex marriage for all federal purposes, which include family insurance benefits for employees of the government, survivors’ benefits from Social Security, and joint tax filings. This section has been found unconstitutional in two Massachusetts court cases and a California bankruptcy court case; however, the court rulings are under appeal. President Barack Obama‘s administration called parts of the law unconstitutional and announced in 2011 that although it will enforce DOMA, it will not defend it in court.[1] Shortly thereafter, the House of Representatives announced it would defend the law on behalf of the federal government in place of the Department of Justice.