What is a female? Not what you think she is!

Another Rant by: BettyJean Kling

What is a female? A Female is depicted by others everyday all day long all over the world. Does anyone anywhere even know who or what a female is anymore? Does a female even know who she is? Ask her – she will tell you who she is in relation to someone or something else no doubt! For example, it has become vogue to brag about being a mother. ‘As a mom’, ‘Proud to be a mom’, ‘A million moms’.

I am one of those and I belong to every one of those online groups and darn happy to be a mom a grandmom and a great grandmom and proud to belong to any and all of the mom groups as well.

For the last few decades we have also been out in the workplace so we define ourselves as teachers, nurses, doctors, lawyers and various other professions. I am a retired Special Education teacher who is a women’s rights activist and blogger.

Let’s see what else might we ordinarily characterize ourselves as? I am a wife and a daughter and proud to be one but I am ultimately a female and when I take away all the other labels –I remain far and away a female.  I need to know that as one of 52% of civilization – and of all of the population I am something unique unto myself as well as a part of something and someone else ! How many of us unique females have no children, husband, siblings or parents alive. What does that make us– nothings?

I am also a US citizen and proud to be one.

I dare say we had damned well better wake up and recognize that we are so much more than someone else’s something, subordinate only to them. As proud as we are to be part of a family, a marriage, a life partner, a parent– have we forgotten we are in the end individuals.

If you are a God fearing individual- God made you in his image – you are responsible to him for what you do about you too. As females we are the majority on this earth and as such we have a responsibility to be lights and good stewards and responsible to teach our daughters and our sons by example. That example is not to turn away from what is wrong but to turn against it. The time is now! There is a war on woman all across this world and it is up to every woman to stand up and say NO! Sadly we spend less time on the community of women and to helping each other which would strengthen our causes. Indeed it takes a village and yet we fight against one another never realizing we are our best warriors. Think again! We need each other!

It is up to women to teach our sons and daughters that females are to be highly respected and accepted just as we are! We are not second class citizens- not here – not anywhere around the world – let’s stand up and start acting like it! We are woman first –not liberal or conservative, not Democrats or Republicans, Not white, black or hispanics, not gay or straight, not pro-life or pro-choice, not someone’s wife or daughter first – to our own selves we need to be true! We are all female and we are in a war of survival and only we can win this war and only if we unite! It takes more than a village it take a majority army!

Ask yourself what is a female?

Look at your daughters – ask what is a female? When you look at your little girl – do you airbrush her perfect? Doesn’t she deserve to be a first class human being or are you raising her to be someone’s something? Are you raising her to be a color, a religion, a sexual orientation? When you see a report of a female beaten, raped, missing or found dead at the hand of her husband – do you realize that could be your daughter that you gave to a husband in marriage?

Do you even wonder about the parents who gave that little girl, their daughter, if they ever dreamed this horror? In some religions man are raised to treat their women this way and ladies make no mistake — it is coming here. We are faced with two problems that guarantee it is already here and will be getting Sexualization and/or Religion both render her less than!

Sexualization and radical religion is on the rise , neither is acceptable and we have to do something about it besides blame each other. Get off your high horses forget you differences and join together for the sake of your daughters – don’t decide issues for them INSTEAD -make the world safe for them ALL OF THEM. As it stands right now we are divided over issues and we are willing to throw half of our own kind to the dogs.

Reported in the US http://www.feminist.com/antiviolence/facts.html

4-5 women a day are murdered by their husbands in the US
1 in 4 women a day are beaten – only half are reported so 1-2 are feared to be harmed
1 in 4 college women experience completed or attempted rape during their college years


100,000′s a day have a Tiger Woods for a husband
Over 50% of men accessing the internet are using internet pornography on purpose
Internet Porn is the fasting growing cause of divorce in the United States

Pornographic websites 4.2 million (12% of total websites)
Pornographic pages 420 million
Daily pornographic search engine requests 68 million (25% of total search engine requests)
Daily pornographic emails 2.5 billion (8% of total emails)
Internet users who view porn 42.7%
Received unwanted exposure to sexual material 34%
Average daily pornographic emails/user 4.5 per Internet user
Monthly Pornographic downloads (Peer-to-peer) 1.5 billion (35% of all downloads)
Daily Gnutella “child pornography” requests 116,000
Websites offering illegal child pornography 100,000
Sexual solicitations of youth made in chat rooms 89%
Youths who received sexual solicitation 1 in 7 (down from 2003 stat of 1 in 3)
Worldwide visitors to pornographic web sites 72 million visitors to pornography: Monthly
Internet Pornography Sales $4.9 billion

WHY? Because we women have not stood up and said NO! We have hidden our eyes from the truth! Women in our society are disrespected and we can stop it now!

1.) Jessica Alba

Have you wondered how some celebrities manage to keep their seemingly perfect figures after pregnancy? Is it the personal trainers and private chefs that do the trick? Not entirely or perhaps not at all.  It’s the airbrusher! The real Jessica Alba , months after giving birth, is seen airbrushed, note the trimmed waistline and hips.


2.) Beyonce

I wonder why Vanity Fair digitally altered Beyonce’s image to appear several shades lighter on their cover.

3.) Kate Winslet

Although denies any retouching was done for her 2008 Vanity Fair photo shoot, a professional airbrusher interviewed by the Daily Mail disagrees:  “There is no real detail in her face. Any detail or wrinkles have been removed. There are no eye bags, contours and smile lines. Her bottom has been rounded off so it looks nice and pert. I would be very surprised if her bottom was like that naturally.”

4.) Britney Spears

These side-by-side photos were taken within days of one another.

5.) Julia Roberts

The Redbook editors plucked Roberts head from a paparazzi shot taken at the 2002 People’s Choice Awards while her body was borrowed from the Notting Hill movie premiere four years ago. The clipped-together photo is accompanied by a headline that blares, without a trace of irony, “The Real Julia.” 

6.) Jennifer Aniston

Wish you could have washboard abs like Jennifer Aniston after the age of 40? America’s favorite Friend does as well. When asked by host Barabara Walters what happened to the modest girl next door we used to love, Jen laughed, “She’s there! Photoshopped!”

7.) Sarah Palin

The body belongs to a 22 year-old woman known only as Elizabeth. An unemployed web site designer from New York City found the four year old pic on Flickr and pasted Gov. Palin’s head on it as a spoof for her Facebook page. And the rest has become as much a part of political yore as Swift Boat and Dukakis in a tank.

8.) Kelly Clarkson
Apparently Kelly Clarkson grew tired of Howard Stern making cracks about her ass and did something about it, or shall I say had her airbrusher do something about it.

The airbrushing later became so pronounced on her new album cover that Clarkson barely recognized herself. On a blog entry she wrote: “Its very colorful and they have definitely Photoshopped the crap out of me . . . Whoever she is, she looks great, ha!”

9.) The Women of the Israeli Cabinet

In a move straight out of Pravda, the Israeli ultra-Orthodox newspaper Yated Neeman airbrushed two female cabinet members out of a picture of the Israeli Cabinet and replaced them with two men not even in the cabinet.  The newspaper claims picturing women violates their laws of modesty but here in the States it simply violates our laws of common decency.

 10.) The Dove Soap Women
Remember the Dove Soap campaign featuring “real”, full-figured women instead of the airbrushed, fake supermodels we’ve grown so accustomed to? Even when Madison Avenue ad executives try to keep it real, their itchy airbrush fingers get the best of them.

According to retoucher Pascal Dangin, these ladies were just as fake as the supermodels we so love to poke fun at. “Do you know how much retouching was on that?” he asked. “But it was great to do, a challenge, to keep everyone’s skin and faces showing the mileage but not looking unattractive.”


Gentlemen, next time your lady tells you the Hollywood ideal of beauty is impossible to live up to, believe her. And Ladies next time you think only a trollop posses for these things – think of the Israeli Cabinet members who disappeared.

Please do not write me comments about the women who pose for these- it is easy to blame women and leave the men blameless or to blame men but the truth is this: Sex sells because we have been selling women forever. For all of history we have been selling women- there are more of us then there are of them – let’s just stand up and stop it now when and where we can! Start with the advertisers. ‘Boycott them one at a time money talks! What is a Female – do you know? How will you explain it to your 3 year old? Do you want to tell her she must grow up to be a mother even if her body will never make her one? Do you want to teach her to submit to a man who may beat her to death? Do you want to teach your 3 year old boy to believe what his lying eyes tell him to believe ? She is not what he thinks she is – she is not what you think she is either!

She is a total work of art- she is every bit as valuable as the son you may have bore — act like it- fight for her right to be treated as the whole – human being she is! Do it Now!

One Response

  1. ((((BJK)))))

    So Undeniably, 100% the absolute truth,

    Loved the article——

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