Willingly falling into second place and believing it is their choice

“It’s Me Louise”

A proud Female is one who is strong and is always in control of her own body. She may be a feminist, a wife, a mother or she may remain single. Whatever she chooses to do with her life or how she chooses to share her time or affections, she is a complete and honorable person who deserving full respect.

She may enjoy sexual intercourse or not. It should be her decision to accept or reject sexual advances, however at not time should she be forced into having unprotected sex. A first-rate man who respects a women would be prepared with “condoms” both for his protection against  sexually transmitted diseases and to prevent unwanted pregnancy rather than relying on the female for the entire responsibility of birth control. Unprotected sex is exclusively for couples who are planning to create life and are both prepared to have a baby!

Any man that claims he does not like to use condoms is a low life that has no respect for a female or for the potential child resulting from his action. He is also someone who would rather drop his easily discarded slime into a woman’s body using use her as his toilet!

Females, wake up, you are not a toilet! Why would you ever allow yourselves to become a receptacle for excess male sperm or why stand for someone you love to use you and treat you as a toilet? You deserve better than having to clean up his slime left in your body. Insist he use condoms and clean up his own residue.

Women have always intrinsically known that they were equal beings and should be independent but never before has woman had more opportunity to fight for their rights, equality, freedom, representation and to hold the highest offices. Yet with all this opportunity, so many still subject them selves to being sex objects and sperm receptacles for men’s pleasure buying the notion that anything less is a sign of sexual repression. Willingly falling into second place and believing it is their choice rather than the result of brainwashing to submit to one of the two options offered women. Neither subordinate wife or unrepressed sperm receptacle is a totally free first class citizen of the same stature man is !

If our Great Grandmothers could risk life and death fighting for the vote 200 years ago and if they could reason that women should be the only ones to determine their own destiny – surely today’s women should be equally as perceptive.

 “I declare to you that woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself, and there I take my stand.” Susan B. Anthony 1875

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Are Women Culturally Monogamous?

We know that women aren’t destined to be monogamous by nature, but how does culture affect our psyches? And how does it shape us for good or ill?

Polygamist inclinations vary from person to person, but today’s Western women are much more monogamous than our Tahitian or American Indian sisters were before European contact. We are also more monogamous in our inclinations than men. 

In surveys, men say they would prefer to have 14 partners over a lifetime. Over that same lifetime, women prefer to have only one or two.

A friend suggested that women were lying because they feared seeing themselves as sluts. Yet women admit to five real-life partners. (Here they are certainly underestimating. The real number is likely 9, given men’s estimate of 12.) But if they’re so worried, why not say they’ve had only 1 or 2 partners?

I was surprised by the low number of “one or two” as the preference, but I doubt women feel the need to go that low just to feel socially acceptable.

Younger women’s preferences may be higher. During the first year of college many willingly experiment with sex – and freely admit to it. But they quickly tire of random sexual contacts. Most drop out of the casual sex scene by sophomore year.

Men, on the other hand, don’t tire of the casual hook up, and want to continue even after college.

When it comes to open marriage or swinging, men are usually more enthusiastic, and more often initiate the idea.

So women seem less interested in casual sex than men. Quite likely because they are more repressed.

I feel that women are more repressed than is healthy. But I’m not sure that some level of repression is all bad.

When I read women’s studies literature, women are often advised to have sex more the way men do: have fun without guilt.

Yet men’s studies, which comes from a feminist perspective, often advises men to have sex more the way women do it. Don’t follow the 4 F’s: Find ‘em, Feel ‘em, F- ‘em, and Forget ‘em. Do not use women as a means of gaining a notch on your belt. Have sex in a context of love and care.

What do you think? How would you describe women’s ways and men’s ways of having sex? What are the positives and negatives of each approach? Is one way better than the other? Is there an optimal in-between? Do men and women tend to have different views on this issue?

I’m interested in exploring the matter. I’d like to year your thoughts, too.

Georgia Platts

Sources:
Brizendine, Louann. The Male Brain. Crown Publishing Group. 2010
Kimmel, Michael. Guyland. Harper. 2008