Louisa served with DIVORCE papers

BettyJean Downing Kling

To add insult to injury, Louisa’s husband has just had us served with divorce papers. This will set him free and allow him to remove her health care leaving her with nothing more than medicaide and second rate care for the rest of her life! The abuse never fails to amaze me!

The 60 year old retired laborer is entitled to full medical, eye and dental coverage at no cost for himself and his wife for life unless and until they divorce! This will leave Louisa without the benefits she needs to sustain her health and well being. Dumping her on the state medicaid roles is unfair to her and the NJ taxpayers and it renders her unable to get full and proper care!

Plantif demands judgment as follows:

Dissolving of the marriage on the grounds “The parties have lived separate and apart for a period of 18 months and there is no reasonable prospect of reconciliation.”

As Louisa’s new Guardian, I am hoping to find a divorce attorney who will take her case here in Bergen County NJ and fight to  have her husband  keep her insured. Louisa cannot possibly get her own insurance under these conditions and she is entitled to keep her private health care rather than  having to resort to State benefits  because  he choses to  abandon her and take her care away!

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Louisa Sits Alone, Denise Misses her

Another Rant by BettyJean Kling

I have been unable to tell you much about Louisa’s progress lately, however, perhaps those who live in NJ will be able to get us some info while I take the legal route.

I wish I could go back to a few months ago and give you good news about Denise again but there is not much to give you these days I am afraid. Since the shooting Denise has gone downhill, her heart is broken and she misses her baby sister and she cries a lot. They keep changing Chemo tratments but the cancer keeps growing. It has spread to her lungs and her liver so Denise now has quite a bit more pain. We think this stress made this cancer growth  accelerate.  

I have a jackass calling him/herself Anonymous Anonymous who has hit my blog as several other alias for days ranting and raving on behalf of the abusers Tommy and Frank. Notice never does anyone ever bring up her children she has two boys! They would also have you believe that I eat men for breakfast and spit them out. Well I do —  but only the kind who abuse and disrespect women.

I have  3 grandsons that we are trying to raise to be real men. Denise’s boy Christopher is 21. Louisa’s Boys are Marc 20 a sophomore in College and Joshua a sophomore in High School. We simply can not afford to have them influenced by lying drug addicted drunken gamblers who abuse and disrespect women, who don’t work, have mouths like sewers and dont value education for their children. Men who show no respect for their wives – their mothers – the law or common decency.

Unlike the three men who just dropped out of my family album; George, Tommy and Frank who of course no longer deserve a page in my book! Let me introduce you to our other men, We have 6 great guys. In fact we had and still have more guys in the family than gals! I will also introduce you to the gals! Meet our Pure Breeds  3 gals and 3 guys! We remain a loving family of guys/gals and just look at these 11 smiling faces – Yeah we all got a lil devil in us but we are not evil- we are tough. KEWL huh?

 

 

From my parents, to my 3 grandsons and our Pups

Four Generations: From my parents, to my 3 grandsons and our Pups

 

 

Both Tommy and Frank are out of work and disinherited and are now trying to buy their way back into the family graces by offering to allow me visitation. But wait – there is a catch Frank also wants to stay in my house at the same discounted rate- and he wants me to stop blogging and only then I can see my daughter to my hearts content!

HA

 I guess that’s all my daughter is worth to him in her current condition – but not to me
to me she is a Queen – not a pawn.  

I am concerned, however, Louisa is alone a lot of the time. Her father works so Doug and Diane visit her as often as they can but they are the only other company Louisa gets besides Tommy and Frank when those two bother to show up at all.  

 

I am told there is a list of persons Frank has banned- but he has not banned every name in the world. My parents in the late 80’s and Denise are fragile and will not /can not go without me.

 

If anyone is in the area of West Orange NJ- please go see Louisa. She can have flowers, music, cards and company. Please – I do not want my baby to be there alone. She is alive and she sees, she feels her hand being held. She hears if you speak loudly on her right side and I think my baby is alone and scared and does not know why she has been abandoned by her mom who promised her – I would not leave her.  It was the last thing I said to her in the hospital over a week ago.

 

So please if you are in the area go see my baby girl- I can’t get past the front door – I can’t even call!

 

Remember Frank is depriving Louisa’s own two boys Marc and Joshua of her home and instead has his kids living there on my dime and now wants to sell visitation of my daughter to keep it that way!

 

At the very least call Kessler and ask how she is – Let them know that there are people out there who know of her – that she has friends and fans that love her. Please –  do not let my baby be left alone and forgotten because of these two selfish hatful vindictive bastards and their heartless cohorts – who would rather blast me than pay attention to what is best for Louisa.

 

Also PLEASE DO NOT ADVOCATE FOR ME WITH KESSLER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!!! They made it clear that any problems that I cause would be detrimental to keeping Louisa there and it is the best place for Louisa so DO NOT mention me – just let them know Louisa has friends – many many friends and she is loved and cared for! Please do not let Kessler think those two cruds are her only advocates or only visitors besides her Dad and Diane.

 

Louisa Rodas currently resides at Kessler Rehabilitation Institute

West Orange Campus
1199 Pleasant Valley Way
West Orange, NJ 07052
Tel: 973.731.3600
Fax: 973.243.6819

What Does it Mean to “Split the Baby”?

Another Rant by: BettyJean Kling

Louisa Moved to Kessler

On Friday January 23, 2009 Louisa Richardson- Rodas was moved from Hackensack University Medical Center in Hackensack, NJ to Kessler Institute for Rehabilitation in West Orange, NJ.

 

As I stood there, I was informed by my son Tommy with the most vicious disgusting terms imaginable that this would be the last time I would see my daughter and he was backed up by her husband Frank. I was not going to repeat his words but I decided To do so . He said to Louisa,

 

” Don’t worry Lou Lou – we will get you out of here and away from this murdering, whore pig and you will be safe very very soon.”

 

Then he looked me straight in the eye and told me I would never see her again and that he would

GET ME.”

 

Yikes! One has to wonder what they are telling this poor baby when I am not there and just how dangerous this all is to her recovery! I am not concerned about what she will think of me- but what is this doing to her? And God help her – why doesn’t anyone care? Surely the rantings and ravings of these two should have raised some eyebrows with the hospital and they certainly should have conveyed this to Kessler.

 

 

I spoke to the Kessler Institute on Friday and they informed me that her husband Frank and brother Tommy had been there already and had been emphatic that they did not want me to visit my daughter. They also told me that they had reports from Hackensack University Medical Center that the two had attempted to ban me from that institution as well but that HUMC had determined that it was in the best interest of the patient to have her mother at her side and they overruled her husband. Kessler assured me if I waited until Monday and did not create any problems over the weekend they would probably follow the same visitation program. They already told the two guys that if there were any problems – Louisa would not be admitted or she would be released- seems they did not care- I did and stayed home and never blogged it- complained or called again till late Monday.

 

On Monday when I called for an update, I was told Kessler asked for a meeting about visitation and both men had created such a stir over the prospect that Kessler would also overrule them that they would  have Kessler turn her away rather than have me visit. Kessler assured me that if I pressed this issue – they will not keep her there. They actually warned me not to press them or Louisa would be released. I am withholding the woman’s name until I am assured the woman can not retaliate against Louisa. Again – Lou is my first consideration.

 

It took me several hours to contact my attorney and I instructed him that he was to inquire regarding both the legality of preventing my visitation and the legality of removing her should I request visitation. I guess the threat is to be considered as well but it is secondary and personal so no matter to Louisa’s best interests at this time.

 

At first – I was simply going to just step back as did the mother in the Bible and refuse to “Split the Baby” then I decided – not to allow anyone to use Louisa against her will nor was I going to be blackmailed by these two heartless fools who claim to love Louisa but who would risk her care for spite, or an Institute who would prevent a mother visitation without first checking the legality of doing so and by threatening to withhold care in retaliation for my seeking legal council on the matter. Finally, I am very concerned with the brainwashing of my helpless daughter – surely someone should be concerned about that?

 

Tommy and Frank should be ashamed of themselves for behaving on behalf of Louisa in such a way as to humiliate and degrade her dignity.

 

In the meanwhile, I intend to continue to try to work this out legally, without jeopardizing Louisa’s care and without loosing touch with my daughter who means the world to me and who I have been financially supporting for the last 5+ years since her husband could not afford to.

 

So what does it mean to “split the baby”?

 

It means that a Mother’s Love will allow me to step back and do the right thing while selfishness will allow others to use a totally helpless Louisa in this unscrupulous disgusting manner may they rot in HELL for:

 

” Using her without her permission as a tool of hate and spite

” Doing things without knowledge if what you are doing is hurting her

” Whispering in her ears not knowing how detrimental it is to her

 

Louisa is in danger because these two fools are messing with the memories and thoughts of a helpless seriously brain injured woman and they appear to have Carte Blanc to continue. Remember – Louisa has lost most of her right brain tissue. And we do not know what all this is doing to her. They are playing with fire and they do not care. I care – Pray God Kessler investigates before it is too late for my helpless daughter who is being victimized yet again! God help Louisa.

 

 Tommy and Frank you are both abusers just like George.  He got one side and now you are damaging the other . Shame on you both!!

It’s all about Louisa- Frank

Not Quite Another Rant by: BettyJean Kling

frank1Frank finally answered one of my calls today. We spoke just long enough for him to say he felt he wasn’t given enough recognition in my blogs for being her husband and that it was his insurance that paid her hospital bills.

My first draft of this rant was to give Frank all the recognition he deserves. I was going to introduce you to Frank, the good the bad and the ugly. And believe me that’s how the progression went.

But after writing a typical rant (and believe me it was the mother-in-law of all rants) I decided to step back and take a larger view of the situation. Frank reads my blogs and can only see that he is left out, I tell him it’s not about him or me –it’s about Louisa. And it’s about the sexism and misogyny in this society that puts so many women in the same situation that Louisa is in now.

So in recognition of the Great and Wonderous Events we expect to happen after the coronation this Tuesday I will depart from my usual rant and in the spirit of hope and change I will give Frank his recognition for being Louisa’s husband for the past four years. And, I will acknowledge the fact that he says he loves her.

Now, Frank, what can I expect from you in return. Will you put aside the petty bickering and work with me for Louisa’s best interests. Will you work with me in setting up a visitation schedule that gives Louisa the best hope for improvement and care. Will you work with me to insure that Louisa is surrounded by her family and loved ones for however long and in whatever state we have her.

Frank, now that we all know that you exist, I hope you will step up to the task. I sit by the phone and hope our next conversation will be more productive.

It’s your call Frank.