Address Confidentiality Programs fall short in protecting victim’s privacy

By Alexis A. Moore: SIA

Address Confidentiality Programs fall short in protecting privacy

Thirty two U.S. states, including California, offer address confidentiality programs for the ostensible purpose of protecting victims of crimes such as domestic abuse and stalking. Victims count on these programs to protect them from their abusers, but privacy protection in the Internet age has become much more difficult. Technology now enables abusers to penetrate or work around confidential address and other programs—and many abusers do so.

Believing that these programs are ironclad, victims are often caught off-guard when their privacy is breached. The reality is that the protection they provide is limited, and participation in them can give victims a false sense of security. The good news is that legislators, advocacy groups, and prosecutors are beginning to wake up to the need for stricter measures to protect the privacy of crime victims.

Nonetheless, because privacy protection can be a matter of life and death, it is critical for victims themselves, and their families, to fully understand confidential address programs and their limitations.

To a degree, confidential address programs can help prevent perpetrators from locating victims’ home addresses. For example, these programs seal Department of Motor Vehicle records so that only the victim’s private mail box—not her home address—is on file. On the other hand, these programs have severe limitations that can unintentionally undermine victims’ efforts to keep their confidential information private. For example:

  • ·         Although they are designed to protect victims from their abusers, confidential address programs can go far afield from this objective. Rather than simply preventing the perpetrator’s mail from reaching victims, these programs prevent the delivery of packages, certified mailings, and certified letters from anyone. These items are returned to the sender. To keep acceptable mail from being returned, victims must obtain yet another private mailbox through a UPS Store or similar mail-receiving station, requiring even more time and expense and making their lives even more complicated than they already are. Kind of defeats the purpose of having a confidential address, doesn’t it?
  • ·         Water, gas, electric, and cable TV records include victim names, physical addresses, and confidential mailing addresses. With the “confidential address” co-mingled in this way with the actual physical location, it becomes easier to breach privacy. Lawmakers in California are now considering legislation that will regulate the contents and use of utility records.  
  • ·         Property ownership records are available online to anyone, including convicted felons, stalkers, and domestic abusers, through each County Recorder’s Office. For their protection, crime victims as well as law enforcement personnel, prosecutors, and other vulnerable individuals should have the option of keeping these records private. Survivors In Action is presently lobbying for legislation that would restrict access to property records. Although this proposal is currently under review at the state and federal levels, many obstacles to implementing it still exist, including the costs of software development and of other changes that would be required in every County Recorder’s Office across the country.

    I cannot emphasize enough that protecting the privacy of a domestic violence or stalking victim can be a matter of life and death. That’s why—at least until these and other dangerous shortcomings of confidential address program are remedied—I encourage representatives of victim support organizations and other advocates to:

    • Inform their clients that confidential address and other privacy protection programs have limitations and should not be assumed to provide full protection.
    • Suggest that their clients seek additional privacy safeguards—such as
    • Using mail-receiving locations outside their county of residence (this costs money so may not be an option for everyone).
    • When possible, completing applications with outdated information already known to perpetrators.
    • Encourage their clients to contact privacy experts like myself who can advise them on other protections they can and should take on their own.

    I believe it is critical for every state to appoint a Privacy Protection Officer who would be responsible for ensuring that advocates and other personnel who assist crime victims are properly trained. Advocates must thoroughly understand privacy protection programs and their limitations and have the knowledge to advise their clients on additional ways they can protect their privacy.

    It is also critical for victim advocates and our nation’s lawmakers to work closely together to develop more effective measures for improving crime victim privacy protection. The current system just isn’t working, and victims are being left behind.

The case for DV Reform

Posted on October 27, 2011 by DVReform

Gimme Shelter: The Case for Domestic Violence Reform

By the time you go to bed tonight, 3 women will have been murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.

For millions of victims, domestic violence is a matter of life and death, but victims of domestic abuse are being victimized again- ignored and abandoned by the very victim service providers that claim to help them. These publicly and privately funded agencies have no oversight – and are in desperate need of reform.

It’s hard to comprehend, but each month its estimated thousands of victims of abuse are turned away from state and federally domestic violence shelters and agencies. Many shelters refuse women with children, charge fees battered women cannot afford, and reject women because of their immigration status, their sexual orientation or their abuser’s occupation. A majority of those shelters that DO accept all victims are not funded by the private and public sector through NNEDV, NCADV, and state coalitions, so they are limited to the numbers of victims they can shelter.

When a victim of domestic violence calls a hotline at the local, state or national level, instead of help, they are often referred to another agency, which in turn refers them to yet another agency. Many women tell of being referred back to the same agencies, but receiving little or no practical help.

Maria DiBari, an abuse survivor who has since created the Tri-County Crisis Center in New York, says, “A victim will reach out in need of a specific resource and no one can provide it. Hotlines will refer to shelters and shelters will refer to other agencies and programs and those programs and agencies will refer them back to the shelters. So it becomes a vicious circle.”

DiBari approached many agencies including LSHV, OPDV, NCADV, NYS Coalition, every shelter in NY, Justice Centers in NYS, and she contacted all of her state officials for assistance and still could not get the resources she needed.

Alexis Moore, head of Survivors in Action, and also a former victim of abuse, agrees. “I was referred and referred and referred… until finally I was referred back to the same agencies that I had already been through.”

They both point to battered women like Heather Williams, of Connecticut, who has reached out to more than 50 state and local agencies, but has yet to receive the help she needs. Heather’s most dire need: legal representation.

“I am a victim of domestic violence and stalking. I have a four year-old daughter and have been in an ongoing custody battle with my abuser. In the past, I’ve had numerous orders of protection that have been violated, have been unable to obtain my own police reports, and, most recently, have been falsely charged with domestic violence. I’ve already spent $100,000 in attorneys’ fees for child custody and have been unsuccessful in my attempts to protect my daughter and myself from my abuser. I live in fear of retaliation. Once you’ve left, the danger is far from over. Now your abuser is on the war-path, and there’s no one to help you.”

Finding and obtaining legal representation is the biggest challenge for victims. Many victims go without legal counsel because they can’t afford lawyers. Agencies will often refer them to Legal Aid, a service that provides free representation, but few if any of their attorneys are experienced in domestic violence law, an essential to help victims of abuse navigate the courts, DCF/CPS, the paperwork, the endless bureaucracy, and the legal tricks their abusers will play.

Heather, after requesting assistance from more than 50 government and private agencies in New York and Connecticut, as well as the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has yet to find a pro-bono attorney to take her case.

Often services offered women are simply denied. Lily Morales contacted the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence – one of the most heavily funded agencies in the United States – for free reconstructive surgery after her abuser disfigured her face. Though surgery is advertised as a service the NCADV provides, Morales was refused.

Other women are simply given incorrect or bad advice. Alexis Moore was told by prosecutors, law enforcement, victim advocates, domestic violence shelters, and other agencies to change her social security number for safety reasons, only to have her request repeatedly denied by the social security administration, for “lack of ongoing abuse” – the standard reply in such cases. When the SSA does grant a social security number changes, victims have actually been arrested and accused of identity theft or fraud.

Karen Elkins, a pro-bass angler, abuse survivor, SIA advisory board member and DV Reform supporter was denied social security number change for safety in 2009. The letter she received from SSA denying her social security number change for safety is like what is estimated to be millions of letters received by abuse victims from SSA each denied by SSA for the same reason, “lack of ongoing abuse”.

There is little oversight of how federal and state funded agencies spend their money: no assessment as to whether or not these agencies are meeting the victims’ needs. Even worse, victims have no recourse when this happens – no place to report this second victimization.

The problem is NOT money but instead how monies and resources are allocated by publicly-funded agencies. DV Reform is about bringing oversight and accountability to these agencies. DV agencies and victim service providers are not regulated as other agencies are yet they deal with customers i.e. victims who are facing life or death circumstances. Victims left behind need to have a place to file formal complaints like consumers have today with law enforcement, businesses and other government agencies.

Everyone knows all too well what DV is. The problem now is victims who are reaching out for help find that no real help exists and there is no place to turn when they are left behind to complain or file a formal complaint.

We are advocating for there to be a federal domestic violence oversight committee for EVERY agency who operates in U.S. that receives funding from public or private sector – where victims can document experience and file complaints.

By writing to local, state and federal officials in support of DV Reform, individuals can use social media platforms to promote this cause as well and join with Tri-County Crisis Center and Survivors In Action by visiting our web sites and contacting us there.

www.SurvivorsInAction.org and www.TriCountyCrisisCenter.org

Topeka, Kansas is going soft on wife beaters.

Jocelyn Andersen

I am outraged that Kansas would repeal laws to protect women from aggravated assault at the hands of husbands and boyfriends. Women have fought so long and hard to make what progress we have only to hear that now we are not worth the money it takes to protects us from violence?

In case any of you have not heard, the Shawnee County District Attorney decided last month that he would no longer prosecute domestic violence cases in the city of Topeka. Outraged at the power play by the D.A.—not the threat to the safety of women—the Topeka City Council voted to reduce felony domestic violence cases to “misdemeanor domestic abuse.” They promptly released eighteen offenders without pressing any charges.

 This was an issue of power and money between the Topeka City Council and the Shawnee County District Attorney. Women there are considered nothing more than pawns to be sacrificed on the altars of power and money.

We need three things:

First we need an Equal Rights Amendment. What happened in Topeka can happen again and again in one city after another until women are reduced to the shape we were in 50 years ago. Don’t say it can’t happen. It just happened in Kansas! An Equal Rights Amendment is the only thing that cannot be changed by a City Council or a simple congressional vote.

 Second, Women need to be declared victims of hate crimes. Hate Crime is a legal category used to describe bias motivated violence. Violence against women, especially when perpetrated by a spouse or boyfriend, should be categorized as a hate crime. In most domestic violence cases, women are assaulted because they are women. That makes domestic violence a hate crime.

 Hate crime laws enhance penalties associated with conduct that is already criminal under other laws. Conversely, domestic violence laws, by virtue of the language itself, often have the effect of minimizing the severity of criminal conduct in the minds of the prosecutors—as the Shawnee D.A. just demonstrated!

 But whether or not the crime was committed because of a generalized sense of male privilege or entitlement or because of a religiously motivated hatred of women due to deeply held Complementarian beliefs, what happened in Topeka underscores the need for women to be declared victims of hate crimes as well as the need for an Equal Rights Amendment which would do far more to protect women than local laws which, as demonstrated in Topeka, are easily repealed.

Third, the term “domestic violence” needs to be purged from our legal vocabularies. There is nothing domestic about violence, and such language used to describe violence against women minimizes the severity of the violence in the minds of those who hear such watered down verbiage. A crowbar does less damage when it’s wielded by a husband or boyfriend and smashes into the face of a woman? Aggravated assault is aggravated assault!

Over the past several decades, there has been an appalling apathy concerning getting the Equal Rights Amendment ratified. I hope what happened in Toledo will serve as a wake-up call to us all.

Domestic abuse cases ignored in Topeka as city & county fight over who should handle prosecution

BY Rheana Murray
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER
Friday, October 7th 2011, 4:00 AM

Topeka, Kansas is going soft on wife beaters.

A 10 percent budget cut has forced local prosecutors to pull back on prosecuting misdemeanor cases – including domestic violence charges, Fox affiliate WDAF-TV reported.

In response, the cash-strapped city is considering repealing its anti-domestic violence law, the station reported, hoping it will persuade the Shawnee County District Attorney‘s office to reverse their decision.

As the city and DA’s office try to hash out who’s responsible for prosecuting such cases, at least three accused domestic violence offenders have slipped between the cracks, according to the Topeka Capital-Journal.

While that doesn’t mean the men won’t face charges down the line, interim city manager Dan Stanley told the publication, it does send potentially dangerous criminals home for the time being.

“The loser in that kind of scenario are the victims and the families,” Stanley said at a news conference Wednesday.

More than 30 other misdemeanor cases have already been dropped by the DA’s office since the September 8 announcement.

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2011/10/07/2011-10-07_topeka_puts_domestic_abuse_cases_on_hold_as_city__county_fight_over_who_should_h.html#ixzz1b4HEj9Ec

Europe to America: Voters are a multitude of fools; You’re idiots!

BJ Downing

I recently got an email with the following so called “BEST QUOTE OF THE DECADE – from the CZECH REPUBLIC” bashing the American people over our current POTUS.

“The danger to America is not Barack Obama but a citizenry capable of entrusting an inexperienced man like him with the Presidency. It will be far easier to limit and undo the follies of an Obama Presidency than to restore the necessary common sense and good judgment to a depraved electorate willing to have such a man for their President.

The problem is much deeper and far more serious than Mr. Obama, who is a mere symptom of what ails America. Blaming the prince of the fools should not blind anyone to the vast confederacy of fools that made him their prince.

The Republic can survive a Barack Obama. It is less likely to survive a multitude of fools who made him their President.”

Well, I cannot say that I disagree but it reminds me of the last ‘BEST QUOTE OF THE DECADE’ that one from the Brits. Remember this?

 Brits to America: You’re Idiots!
Well, 51 percent of you, anyway.
By June Thomas Posted Thursday, Nov. 4, 2004, at 8:07 PM ET

Americans who think post-election anti-red-state recrimination is a U.S.-only phenomenon should check out the cover of Thursday’s Daily Mirror: Over a picture of President George W. Bush, the paper asked, “How can 59,054,087 people be so DUMB?” Inside, the left-leaning British tabloid headlined its editorial, “WAR MORE YEARS.” In a clear demonstration of the trans-Atlantic culture gap, the paper’s description of the president’s beliefs—clearly intended to strike Mirror readers as a radical agenda—is simply an accurate, if crude, précis of his platform: “Mr Bush opposes abortion and gay marriage, doesn’t give a stuff about the environment, is against gun control and believes troops should stay in Iraq for as long as it takes.”

Great quotes both – but- as far as I am concerned the best quote was written by one of our own when we formed this country long before we the people lost our marbles and sold our souls to one party or the other over a few radical issues none of us has any damned business dictating to the other of us!

“I never submitted the whole system of my opinions to the creed of any party of men whatever, in religion, in philosophy, in politics, or in anything else, where I was capable of thinking for myself. Such an addiction is the last degradation of a free and moral agent. If I could not go to heaven but with a party, I would not go there at all.” ~~~ THOMAS JEFFERSON, letter to Francis Hopkinson, Mar. 13, 1789

Any given Election year a paltry few percent of fools ( last few elections were won by 51-53%) will vote for one side or another over some radical issue be it religious vs. Liberal  (abortion/gay rights) or Republican vs. Dem (Green vs. drill baby drill or gun control) issue. Issues which apparently are more important that the waste, fraud, and abuse going on under our very noses. They are draining us dry while they are getting rich and making their cronies rich.

Here is some interesting information: Our representatives are MILLIONAIRES

The current salary (2011) for rank-and-file members of the House and Senate is $174,000 per year.
Who are the wealthiest members of Congress? Here’s a look. Next
If you stayed up nights wondering whether members of Congress would be able to weather the Great Recession of the late 2000s, this bit of news should finally put your mind at ease.

Overall, members of Congress saw their personal wealth grow by more than 16 percent during the worst economic downturn in the United States since the Great Depression, according to financial disclosures submitted by lawmakers. See more: Even in Recession, Congress Pay Grew

The median personal wealth for members of Congress grew to $911,510 in 2009, up from $785,515 in 2008, according to the Center for Responsive Politics. Nearly half of the members of Congress are millionaires.

We should be focusing on jobs, economy, energy independence, education, infrastructure, equal representation by women in our government, media bias, court reform, earmark reform, term limits, terrorism, immigration, voter fraud, caucus fraud, corruption and tax reform instead of the divisive issues.

While they keep us looking at those divisive issues that keep us at each other’s throats they are abrogating our very democracy and getting away with it. We are battling each other while they just spend our money to get elected and re-elected. They spend it to play golf and to fly around the world visiting dignitaries for a day then vacationing for the rest of the week with the family members they brought with them; they vacation and buy homes on tropical islands all on our dime. They exempt themselves from our laws and health care reforms. They give themselves raises while they ask the citizens to pay more in taxes, they preach tax reform but they intend (just like HC reform) to hold on to their own loopholes. They believe they are above the law and are blatant about it (Kerry and his R.I. Yacht scandal)

“The Boston Herald reported that the Massachusetts Democrat had berthed his yacht Isabel in Rhode Island and suggested he was seeking to avoid paying about $437,000 in sales tax and an annual excise tax of around $70,000 that would be levied if he berthed the vessel in Massachusetts. Rhode Island has no sales tax on yachts.”

The Republicans with their family values are repeatedly found short of family values too numerous to list here but we know what they are. Suffice it to say, both parties claim the other party does not suit our values and they are both right – NEITHER does! Both are corrupt! Both are lying through their teeth.

Both QUOTES OF THE DECADE are true, the one about fools voting for Obama and dummies voting for Bush. We are a nation of sheeple who are getting dumber and dumber every day and paying the dishonor to do so. The once great and proud America will fall like every great empire and like the great republic of Rome if we do not wake up soon and stop voting for a few issues, which both parties offer like carrots on a stick but never really deliver anyway but rather keep alive as bait to keep us hooked to their party.

WAKE UP.

BTW- I have no idea who really wrote the quote attributed to the CZECH’s – it doesn’t really matter  does it? Read instead our founders and our Constitution.

Molesting teacher cover-up? Steven Noyes vs. Jane Doe.

BJ Downing Kling

The story below does not present many concrete facts—it comes down to a he said she said which no doubt will end up with the child ‘s word holding less weight than the teachers in the end. While there is not much evidence that the teacher molested this child and many will point to a 5 million dollar law suit as a reason to make a false claim, great minds will have to look for more than circumstantial evidence whether they can prove it in the end or not. Having said that- there is one sentence in the article that floored me-it comes from the headmaster. This was more than a hug and the headmaster knows it—why else would she say “This is all my fault; I shouldn’t have let him hug the children.”

Appropriate male teacher distance to a 9 yr old girl - hands in plain sight

Appropriate male teacher distance to a 9 yr old girl - hands in plain sight

He hugs the children?

He hugs the children!!!

I am a retired school teacher, gone from the scene for 10 years and I remember clearly that we never hug the children, never under any circumstances and never the opposite sex. Indeed it is clear this behavior has occurred with teacher Noyes before and this school is going to do whatever they have to cover –up previous cover-ups. The only crack in this case appears to be the headmaster’s confession. She slipped up, break her and break the case or find another Jane Doe.

To win this case – they will have to find a prior to Jane Doe, because no one will believe the current claim without corroboration. I traced the case to the local news and the comments clearly aimed at discrediting the family. I will never understand why, with all the tragedy laid upon women and children by male perpetrators, the first response is always – he didn’t do it and she must be lying. Why is that? And why – especially when statistics shows 87% of the time he has done it? Even if it were 50% of the time – I want to know why HE always gets the benefit of the doubt?

http://www.news-press.com/article/20110519/NEWS0119/110519038/-1/https

raspberryberet wrote:

They must be underwater on their house.

TheSock wrote:

I sincerely hope a man’s reputation is not being destroyed over greed.

 

On second thought even another Jane Doe will be accused of jumping on the bandwagon for money- the headmaster must be made to confess what she knows and a very through investigation must be made into this teacher.

Who believes JANE DOE??
 
A little girl comes home with a terrible secret; she’s just been touched by her favorite teacher; touched in a way she knows is wrong. What anyone familiar with sexual assault will know is that this is was likely the beginning of the touching while the grooming of Jane Doe happened for months. 

JANE DOE does what exactly what we teach our children to do. If someone touches you inappropriately – TELL someone. 
 
JANE DOE did, but what happened next has left her family hurt, angry and ready to fight for justice for this brave little girl.
 
The story takes place in a close community in Naples, Florida, at Village School dedicated to Christian values where Doe has been a student since kindergarten.  She is an outgoing, kind girl, who still to this day doesn’t even get the sexual nature of a breast touch as sex and breasts even being sexual are not even on her radar. 

Her parents are the kind of people you’d want in your community, in your school, and as the support system to a traumatized kid.  They are church going, softball playing, parents who take pride in their value-driven life. In fact, they chose Doe’s school because of its mission of, “educating the child’s mind, body, and spirit through Christian values in an ever-changing world.”
 
Since the day they told Doe’s story to the school, they’ve felt anything but Christian values. 
 
THE INCIDENT:
It happened just after Christmas break. Jane Doe is in her homeroom class working on her math homework. She gets stumped on a long division problem and asks her teacher for help. She goes up to her teacher’s desk, and that’s when it happens. 
As Doe tells her mother and father, the teacher began helping her with her first question. He put his hand under her dress and on her knee. Then, he reached his hand up her back and under her shirt, coming around the front to rub her chest.  He keeps his hand there while he helps her with three other math problems.
Afterwards, Doe thanks him and returns to her seat.
 
THE AFTERMATH:
The parents didn’t panic, but they did want answers. They approached the head of the school and heard her say, “This is all my fault; I shouldn’t have let him hug the children.”

Then things quickly turned from bad to worse. The school expels little Jane Doe (to me THE MOST EGREGIOUS PART OF THIS CASE!!)  The teacher, who has refused to cooperate with police, has returned to his job.

PRIOR TO ANY LAWSUIT, we made many attempts to simply get answers.  There was no desire to sue just a desire to make sure there was a proper police as well as school investigation.  While the police partially did their job, the school failed this family, and Jane Doe.  When I personally tried to get information, I was told the only way to do it was to bring a case.  So here we are.

 
THE LAWSUIT:
This is the story of a father who believes, and is standing up for his little girl. It’s about a mother who wants to make sure no other child goes through the pain and suffering her daughter has.  The goal in filing a suit is to get answers, to hold the school accountable, to make sure that this case is not simply swept under the rug.  It is our goal to have a safe forum for people to come forward as we know that there are likely other victims out there. 

THE LEGAL TEAM:

Miami attorney JEFF HERMAN and Los Angeles Attorney jointly represent Jane Doe and her family.  JEFF HERMAN is a nationally-recognized advocate for survivors of childhood sexual abuse, announces the filing of a new lawsuit against THE VILLAGE SCHOOL, a Naples-area private school affiliated with the North Naples United Methodist Church, for the sexual abuse of a 9 year old student at the school.   The family is also represented by ROBIN SAX, a California-based attorney and former sex crimes prosecutor, who is a frequent network TV commentator on high-profile legal cases, including the Casey Anthony and O.J. Simpson prosecutions.  SAX is a national expert in child sexual abuse and has written several books on the subject.


ROBIN SAX
Law Offices of Robin Sax
A Professional Law Corporation
1434 Westwood Blvd
Suite 17
Los Angeles CA 90024
www.robinsax.com
(310) 470-9955 office
(310) 469-7878 fax
robin@robinsax.com

The Holly Collins Case: Why battered women stay with their abusers!

Written by Jennifer Collins H/T Maria DiBari

Why do Battered Women Stay with Their Abuser? – The Holly Collins Case

Zachary, Jennifer & Mom in usa 1992LOOK

Zachary, Jennifer & Mom in usa 1992LOOK

It is incomprehensible that as a result of the Order For Protection, which was granted and forbade Mark Collins from abusing his wife and children, the father was simultaneously granted unsupervised visitation with the very children he abused. This girl, barely a woman couldn’t understand the ramifications of the family court system. Holly Collins sought out the Child Protection Investigators who forced her to take her children away from their abusive father and went directly to the Child Protection office in a panic begging them to protect her children. “This is why I stayed” She wept “At least I could protect the children MOST of the time. Now my children have to go alone with him and there is no one there to protect them.” The child protection desk agent was sympathetic but explained that once this battered woman took actions to protect her children and left her abuser the case was then transferred from Juvenile Court to Family Court and it was her duty as a mother to get the family court judge to protect her children.

In the meantime Holly’s young children would return from court ordered visitations battered and bruised. Holly’s little boy was treated by their pediatrician for injuries sustained from his father’s abuse. The doctor’s report documents the bruises to the young lad and clearly states “Mother will be alert for abuse potential situation.” For 5 more years Holly Collins was alert and vigilant to protect her children but time after time and one court hearing after another Mark Collins somehow managed to convince the judge that Holly was trying to “Alienate” him from his children’s lives. Eventually a family court judge instructed Holly to take the children to the Boston Children’s Hospital to be evaluated by the Child Abuse Trauma Team and he simultaneously ordered a custody evaluation. Both Dr. Eli Newberger and the entire investigative team at the Boston Children’s Hospital found that the children and their mother were severely abused by the father. Back in Hennepin County the Family Court Investigator also confirmed domestic violence but conceded that Holly’s fear of her husband was (although unwittingly) indeed interfering in the children’s relationship with their father. And just like that custody was reversed to the very man who terrorized, beat and battered this woman and her children.

Holly eventually fled the country with her children and was the first American citizen granted asylum in the Netherlands. After 14 years in hiding she was found by the FBI. After a lengthy investigation ALL international and domestic kidnapping charges were dismissed. When questioned by reporters in the lobby of the Minneapolis Court House Holly Collins responded that the biggest mistake she ever made was leaving her abuser.

Is this really the message we want to send to abuse victims?

Holly Collins – The REAL Story is Released!

Garland Waller has produced an amazing short documentary about what REALLY happened in our case. Her web site No Way Out But One and the original documentary can be found at: http://www.nowayoutbutone.com/

 The web site for the powerful new documentary film No Way Out But One tells the remarkable story of one woman’s effort to save her children from a life of abuse.

In 1994, Holly Collins ‘kidnapped’ her children and went on the run. An international fugitive who was wanted by the FBI, she eventually became the first American to ever be granted asylum by the government of the Netherlands, based on claims of domestic violence.

Holly Collins’ story is unique, but her struggle is a representative symbol for the thousands of women who must deal with the maddening injustices of a family court system that sentences an estimated 58,000 children a year to live with or visit with their abusers.

The web site has the 13 minute short version of the film. Work is now underway to do additional filming and to expand it to a feature length film. The site also has helpful links to a wide variety of resources for those who may find themselves in a similar custody crisis.

Take a look, let us know what you think. If the link above does not work, just copy and paste this address into your browser: http://nowayoutbutone.com/

 For more information about our case you can follow my web blog:  www.americanchidlrenunderground.blogspot.com

Detective John Falcone: casualty of blatant disregard for women.

BettyJean Kling

They not only owe Detective Falcone a parade of sorrow – they owe Jessica Welch one too and we women outnumbering the officers should be marching in it!

There is a pandemic, 4 women a day are slaughtered at the hands of an intimate partner who has been beaten before and who the law has released onto the streets to kill her. Friday afternoon Jessica Welch was murdered by her husband in the City of Poughkeepsie. One of our TMU WOMEN coalition members Maria DiBari was given an opportunity to voice our position and restate the need for one of many law’s we true advocates of victims have brought forward to no avail.

I urge you to read the article, create a login and lend your support to Maria and to Linda’s law. We have finally been given an opportunity to be heard on what has become a national story and where no other women’s group has shown any interest. Please back up Maria and by extension you will be helping TMU and the WOMEN coalition show we are there for the women’s issues that really matter and are not being addressed. The stunningly deafening silence, if continued, will result in the continued increase of preventable deaths of women.

And women will die – ho hum and occasionally an officer will die too and there will be grand honors for the hero while herstory is lost and no one admits the officer died as a result of failure to protect her in the first place. The officer was a needless casualty of the blatant disregard for women.

They not only owe Detective Falcone a parade of sorrow – they owe Jessica Welch one too and we women should be marching in it!

In summary:

Mr. Welch had previously assaulted his wife, violated a stay-away, was charged with third-degree assault, was jailed on $1,000 bail which he posted himself, three days after that, confronted his wife, was charged with a felony, was jailed with $20,000 bond on Friday Feb.20, was also freed on bail on the same date and drove to Poughkeepsie where he killed his wife and an officer.

When are we going to stop reading about these tragedies in the paper? When will we actually take action and have time for domestic violence issues in this country, in this state, and in this community?

http://www.poughkeepsiejournal.com/article/20110220/OPINION03/102200378/-1/opinion03/Domestic-Violence-Reform-in-NYS

MajorityUnited wrote:

We need Maria DiBari involved at the state level in domestic violence issues and solutions. Obviously those currently in power at domestic violence state and local agencies have not adequately addressed these important issues.
4 Women a day die at the hands of their intimate partners but very few make national news because it is a ho hum story until a police officer is also murdered. Why isn’t there just as big a parade of sorrow for every young mother who is sacrificed to her husband or lover?
We need survivors who are more interested in results than politics or paychecks in this positions, Maria is one such woman who has been fighting for justice for women.
Yes there was an officer killed and yes they came from all over the country because he put his life on the line, God bless our officers, Let’s not let him die in vain –Let us all stand up for the innocent women and children worth dying for as this brave officer saw fit to do. And let’s hire Maria and others to do the job.

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Pedophile Judges: How else can you explain this?

Another Rant By: BettyJean Kling

There is absolutely no rational explanation for what you are about to see except for one! Pedophiles are sitting on family court benches.

We already know some pedophiles chose their careers based on their proximity to and expected trust around children, and now we see they will do anything to engage in sex with children or in helping others to have sex with children so they can enjoy it vicariously.

We need to remove these pigs from these positions of power! If it is not bad enough that fathers and other intimates are so sick as to molest our children  and we can’t trust our Scout leaders, teachers, coaches , pastors, priests, neighbors and God only knows who else — now we can’t even trust the law to protect our children from sexual abuse.

Domestic abuser kills girlfriend, cop then self

By: BettyJean Kling

Another coward takes his own life rather than face the music – good riddance – one less monster to have to feed and shelter for life or waste an electric charge on! But this piece of garbage took innocence with him! Hold on to your hats- I am sure the Nettles clan will be on our site momentarily to tell us how he was forced to snap! How we just don’t know this terrific guy who was railroaded and set up and had his life ruined by one or more worthless females and on and on and on! I could bring you four of these a day that end in murder and 96 more that end in severe beatings but my fingers would fall off so I will just bring you a few more – just enough to show you the pitiful lot of BRUTE force batterers out there and their enablers.

Truthfully the enablers are more pitiful then the sicko’s! The enablers who allow these barbarians to walk free among innocent people. SHAME on you cry alone!

The friends and family are one type of enabler- one can almost understand their stupidity- I said almost- but really after a first time- there is no excuse for them either. He was cruel to humans, animals and children no doubt the world is a better place with him off the street.

The law makers, the courts and the entire judicial system are the worse enablers. This guy should never have seen the light of day outside prison walls. He was blight on society and now 2 others besides this pig are dead. What was this animal doing on the streets terrorizing people?

Pierce County Child Rapist Shoots, Kills Cop, Girlfriend and Self in Texas

Barnes Nettles has a history of violence, convicted of child rape in 1997.

A rookie police officer responding to a domestic violence call in suburban Dallas

 was shot to death trying to protect an 11-year-old girl from her mother’s gun-wielding ex-boyfriend, a department spokeswoman said Wednesday.Tiara Ellis Richard said Arlington officer Jillian Michelle Smith, 24, was shot by Barnes Samuel Nettles on Tuesday night as she sought to shield the girl from the 38-year-old man after he entered the apartment of Kimberly Deshay Carter, 29. After shooting Smith, Nettles shot Carter to death in a back bedroom, then returned to the living room, where he killed himself, Richard said. 

“It appears (Smith) was moving in the direction of the child in an effort to protect her and, in that process, she was shot,” Richard said, citing the girl’s statement and forensic evidence.

According to Richard, Smith was shot about 20 minutes after arriving at the apartment. Nettles had left the apartment but returned while Smith was there taking the report, she said.

Nettles was arrested by Arlington police in September for allegedly assaulting Carter’s sister and her mother, Richard said. He was out on $5,000 bail, and his case was still pending, she said.

The arrest warrant affidavit said the alleged assaults were precipitated by Carter’s mother refusing to allow her daughter to date Nettles after learning he was a registered sex offender.

According to the affidavit, Carter’s mother claimed Nettles tried to choke her and throw her over a railing. She said Nettles threatened to kill her and her husband.

The affidavit, prepared by an Arlington police detective on Sept. 16, said Nettles had convictions for rape of a child, domestic violence, burglary, failure to register as a sex offender and possession of a firearm. …

Sources tell Q13 FOX News that Lakewood Police Officers arrested Nettles in 2008 for animal cruelty.  He was accused of throwing his fiance’s dog off the 2nd floor balcony.  He lived in Ruston at the time.

Smith was an Arlington native who graduated from the University of Texas

at Arlington with a criminology degree in 2009. Her interest in police work began at an early age when she participated in an anti-drug program for public school children.
 

Failing to kill Ketra Batiste, Gregory Scott Turner kills himself

By: BettyJean Kling

Family asks, "How do we know that it wasn't her -- those "first few times" -- and he finally had enough?

When the Swallows Come Back to Capistrano this time- mother and children will be safe. His family is asking what the wife did to make him snap and why we always assume it’s the man who does the battering? Hmmmm might have something to do with the fact she was battered bruised and unconcious when the child called the police and the coward ran off leaving her near dead and the children 5 and 7 home alone with a dying mother!  But I guess we can call that circumstantial?

Has it ever occurred to anyone that every murderer has a family who loves them and can’t believe this creep did what he did. Do you think abusers were not once nice guys with families and friends who never suspected a thing?  In fact that is the first thing neighbors and friends say ” Gee- he is the last guy I would have thought …”  But to blame the victim – sad – very very sad and I feel very bad for anyone who does! 

Turner was an undergraduate at UCI who was studying criminology and law. Imagine this man as a cop or a detective in charge of helping female victims? It is my opinion that seeing his future destroyed – he probably took his life. Or perhaps his wife had a brother, father or neighbor- a real man who decided one less abuser was  a better thing.  All I know is that he did not snap- he did it before, spent 4 days in jail and he would have done it again – imagine the little girl calling the cops on her daddy  to try and save her mommy’s life? 

Where ‘s his family on behalf of these babies? Where were they the first few times the kids had to witness all this from the would-be criminologist turned criminal turned coward?

Turner was arrested by UCI police on Dec. 9 after a fight with his wife at their on-campus apartment and released from jail Dec. 13, authorities said.

He was released from jail after the District Attorney’s Office declined to prosecute, records show.

And imagine I am getting comments from his family on his behalf from a woman who wants

His family wants you to believe this little girl was the batterer of the 6 ft 225 lb bruiser who left her for dead on the floor fighting for air and her life.

 me to consider what the wife might have done to cause this “poor guy” to snap before he could visit his family for Christmas.

Snap my ass- he nearly snapped her neck and as I said – it was not the first time – apparently the cops were there 3 weeks ago- God only knows why they let him out! Had they held him – he’s be alive- behind bars but alive! Thankfully the children and their mother were not more seriously injured as a result of lax judicial oversight.

Gregory Scott Turner, a 33-year-old was wanted for allegedly trying to kill his wife, was found dead inside his truck in the San Juan Capistrano area Friday, according to university spokesman Tom Vasich.

Less than a week earlier, police had responded to a similar incident at Turner’s campus home on Verano Place, Vasich said. Turner was arrested Dec. 9 and booked on suspicion of assault.

Police said that on Wednesday, Turner fled from his home when officers arrived.

http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2010/12/uci-gregory-scott-turner-dead.html

— Ruben Vives

He strangled and beat his wife Ketra Batiste-Turner, 32 into unconsciousness, their oldest daughter called the police and the 5 and 7 year old were put in protective custody until their mother can be released. Luckily – they will not have to live in fear.  In honor of her recovery and the children’s home coming I have included  my favorite song about an otherwise lovely place to live- Capistrano.