Amber Cole Alert: She’s 14

BettyJean Downing Kling
Reporting the one-woman crusade of AnnaBelle of Peacocks and Lilies

Excerpt:

At some point in the early morning hours of October 17, 2011 “Shes 14” and “Sketchers” (WARNING: Highly Offensive) began to trend on twitter and I explored it as I do many trends. Shortly I found out that the hullabaloo was over a young 14 year old African-American girl from Memphis, TN who had been videotaped performing oral sex on a male at what looked like a school. Apparently whoever posted the video posted the girl’s name as well–Amber Cole. I found the #AmberCole hashtag (WARNING: Highly Offensive) and began to follow it. It became evident rather quickly that this video was real and was being passed around on twitter. Amber Cole may have even created her own account in response to the video being posted. Her account is @DaRealAmberCole….

I was certainly offended by the crass level of humor being tweeted about this poor girl, but it is Twitter after all, and that’s par for the course. It’s still a free country and people can talk. What they can’t do is distribute child pornography, which is what people were doing every single time they posted the link to the video. They were so blase about it. Here’s a 14 year old giving head! As if it were perfectly normal and it hadn’t occurred to them that it might be illegal, let alone immoral. …

Update2: I’ve decided I’m not stopping until this video is off Twitter. I’ve also contacted Sketchers to make sure they know that their brand is being associated with child porn. I don’t know if my one message will get through, though, so you might consider contacting them yourself. Here’s the link. I know you’re reading. I can see the blog stats shoot through the roof. Will you stand idly by while this happens? While more and more people victimize this young lady?

So far this is a one-woman crusade to stop the distribution of a child porn video that trending worldwide on twitter and virally finding its way onto myriad other sites, I can’t catch it all. Does anyone care about child pornography anymore? Or is it the girl’s race or economic status that is stopping you from acting? Gave head when you were 14? Got head? Well, you certainly didn’t sign on for someone to videotape it and post it to the internet with your name, for goodness sakes.

I could really use some help here, folks. I’m tracking #AmberCole and #Sketchers for people posting the video and then replying to them with this message: “Please remove the #AmberCole child porn video from your timeline or I will have to report you. #Sketchers Shes14”

Read full text here:
http://peacocksandlilies.com/2011/10/17/ambercole-child-pornography-on-twitter/

Read updates and to join the effort: http://peacocksandlilies.com/2011/10/17/action-alert-how-you-can-help-ambercole-and-fight-child-pornography/

69 Responses

  1. It’s extremely obvious (after actually watching the video) that she knew she was being video taped. It’s not like they were being secretive about it. It was probably a group sex. I agree…child pornography is wrong and this is extremely inappropriate behaviour for a 14 year old child. Nonetheless…this IS the internet. She let herself be recorded, therefor this is her fault. Let’s stop victimizing people, and start (at least) ATTEMPTING to understand what is really happening here. Please, thank you, goodnight.

    • If you watched the video then you would know that she didn’t know that she was being filmed. When she turned around to the camera once to look at the boy filming her he put the camera down so that she couldn’t see him recording her. What if that was your daughter, sister, cousin, or friend? What if you actually knew this girl? Would your reaction be the same? I don’t think so. People are so quick to judge when their lives aren’t perfect. Yes she was wrong but i pretty sure you did something close to the sort while you were in school or in your lifetime but you just didn’t get caugt is the only difference. smh God Bless

      • WTF is this bitch talking about?? Amber was sucking dudes dick with his 2 homeboys was standing right there in the back of the school and she surprise this shit happen?? She’s a fucking slut not for giving head cause everybody does that but for letting his homeboys stand there while she puts in that kneework!! FREAK BITCH PERIOD!!!!

        • The only reason I am allowing these to remain here is to show the quality of the boys involved and the thoughts they have about the females they hang with.

          Perhaps if young girls know what they guys really think of them – the girls will think twice before the give in to casual sex with them.

          Just read the comments of this young guy re:
          “everybody gives head” and “kneework” “slut”

          • The rest of us appreciate it. Young men today are often so disappointing. I wonder what their parent’s would think of what they are doing. Wonder if they would care.

          • wow… your soo hard…. this happens all the time without a video camera, gtf over yourself, looking down on people for talking in a certain way…. you should be ashamed of yourself for putting him down, wy dont you just call him black you racist…. you are one of those glass half empty people… and fyi no one ever liked sketchers anyway they suck

          • “the type of boy involved”… you sound real dumb. any guy in his teens that can get a girl would… .its not some thing specific to certain people, and if it was you would not be able to tell from the way someone talks, shame on you for judging others. also thanks for making this whole thing bigger than it is. if you, and the rest of the little authors who couldn’t get a real job and blog instead, this wouldn’t have become sooooo big. she knew what she was getting into..

          • You are absolutely correct.. It just sickens me to hear all the negative comment about her and nothing bout him.. to include all the extra negativity talk people have been saying about her parents..Where is the shame? it in all the superficial people so quick to judge her.. this world needs a healing. That only prayer can mend What is really going on. everybody want to be the judge and jury.. sick, and filthy. the point is how quick people have respond and all the nastiness that came from their mouth. Check yourself she is a young girl…he is older than her and he ought to be put in jail forreal.

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          • Speak English please. This is whats wrong with our young children today, they have no idea how to form a sentence and speak appropriately when needed. Texting is not a form of speech. Have some dignity and respect for yourselves.

          • BITCH (LURN) HOW TO WRITE…. GODD DAMNNNNN

        • I really agree with you! These days girls start doing things that only a grown person should be doing but when you do something like that in front of anyone you are putting yourself up for things like this to happen. People keep saying that she was only 14 but she was not sucking like a 14 year old so why should she get the treated that a 14 year old should get. Nasty is nasty and I feel so sorry for her mom because I could only imagine how that must feel. It’s bad enough to find out your 14 year old is having sex but to find out when the world does can’t be easy. It was not that guys first time doing that

      • I’m sick of people sugar coding this girl.She did something that no child should be doing at 14 whether a camera was used or not.The point is she took her own actions and had oral sex,now her parents know what she did during her freedom time.This would had never happened if she “wasn’t doing grown up stuff”.And if that was my so called friend I wouldn’t support her because I don’t do it so why hang with people that do at 13,14 years old.

    • Donut, You seem to think it is ok to pass child porn aroun if the child posed for it! I certainly hope you are never a parent! I did not see the video – I am not that low that I would seek it out- all I need to know is that a child is on video in a sex act and that is enough for me to know that it is kidde porn and not for my eyes or anyone else’s eyes.
      Shame on you for judging this child for whatever reason she is in this position and shame on you for watching it and passing along your judgement of her to others.

      What have we come to in this country when our kids are born into a place where sex is delivered to them non-stop 24/7 via radio, TV newspapers, magazines and its plastered all over the buses and on the sign posts so that girls actually think they are nothing but sex objects and then we blame them because they think the only way they can be important or famous is to act like it?

      What are their role models telling them? And now here you and others come and say it’s their own fault! No Donut- its your fault! Yours and others like you who allow the sexualization of women and girls as if it is ok and then blame girls for emulating what your kind have normalized!

      Shame on you and others like you! Girls like Amber are getting mixed messaged and need our guidence not your scorn! You make my stomach turn!

      • First off, we can all tell that you really know what the fuck your talking about… you call her Amanda at the end of your comment. HER NAME IS AMBER! Secondly, you are trying to flame people, he clearly says that child porn is wrong. Third, it is her fault, no one told her to go suck a dick, and the guy certainly is not forcing her too. TV, the radio (who listens to the radio), and magazines do not advocate going and sucking dicks or having pre marital sex. You see things where they are not. You clearly have some pent up anger towards guys, as every single one who comments you flame and try to start up an arguement. As a “reporter” you should know that everyone is entitled to their opinion. Get your facts straight.

    • Where do I go to watch the video?

    • Amber Cole didnty now she was being videotaped she made have done something extremly wrong but what about the other boys who were also apart of this wrongfull crime

    • w-w-waiit. did u see the video? did she not know? i wanna see the video to PROVE that she did now about being tape. where can i find the vid?

  2. I agree totally with your argument. I don’t have any kids of my own but this right here is wrong and immoral. Our children have to be protected, and I think that it is sick that people are actually copying this video to other sites. SInce no one else wants to step up, I took the liberty of contacting the national center for exploited children and sent in a report about this situation. We all talk a good game about helping the children, but no one wants to really do anything about it. I think that the video should be banned from the internet because it is child pornography and posting that little girls name on the internet is also a crime. Because she is a minor, her name is not suppose to be mention. I hope that she will over come this and not fall into a depressed state and try to commit suicide. Everyone is lashing out at this little girl instead of trying to help her. If I had a daughter and she did this with out me knowing, I would want someone to reach out to my child and help her.

  3. Betty Jean this is now a two woman crusade to stop child pornography. It’s amazing how many sick people we have in this world. Everyone is getting a kick out of this video and no one is using the brain that GOD has giving them. How can grown adults take this and pass it around like it is a joke. I first heard of this on the radio on my way home today. It was actually a discussion topic on the radio station, they even said the little girl’s name. I felt so disgusted with this story. I went home and contacted the national center for exploited children and gave them every link I could find on this little girl. This is something that needs to be reported, and i hope that your blog followers will do the same in reporting this too. I will also write a letter to sketchers about this as well. We have to help these misguided children from this cruel world.

  4. Just Cause She Didn’t Know She Was Flimed Don’t Make It Right ! She Knew She Was Giving Oral Sex To The Boy Nobody Forced Her ! A Person That Was Forced Wouldn’t Have Giggled ! Did You Not Hear Her Laugh !? Many Girls Do this And She Just Got Caught !

  5. HEY PLEASE WATCH MY VIDEO
    A RESPONSE TO THIS AMBER COLE FOOLERY!!
    http://www.facebook.com/#!/video/video.php?v=266910986680258

  6. Im not saying this is was a good thing.. Clearly it was wrong but its pretty much her fault four giving some guy oral sex in public. (which was a school i think)

  7. I don’t feel bas for her. She knew what she was doing and even has a Facebook fan page thanking the people who are supporting her. Her “About Me” statement? I sucked a d*ck and got famous. Doesn’t sound too remorseful to me. I haven’t seen the video and have no desire too. She says on her page her mother is moving her for a fresh start, I hope she makes better choices in the future.

  8. While I do think that kids these days are much older than we give them credit for (gosh I feel old now) this is still child pornography none the less. Her knowldge of being filmed is not the issue, nor is it relevant to this argumant wether or not she was forced to do it. The fact is this is being spread around the internet with little more care than if it was a video of a cat on a skateboard.
    This video shows other people that posting things like this on the internet is not only ok, it is cool and funny. it is in fact none of these tings and the sooner this is taken down, the either.
    good luck on your mission!

  9. i think your priorities are a bit out of whack.

    i’d love if you followed me and improved your health instead of running a campaign defending some random 14 year old girl who’s attention-starved.

    now, THAT, would be a productive use of your time.

  10. She knew what she was doing. Got filmed and is now embarrassed. Those guys picked her for a reason. She’s been doing it before. In fact, she seems very good at it. They didn’t just walk by and tap her on the shoulder because they “wondered” if she’d be good at that. They knew who to pick and just planned to tape it that time. Often shame, pride, keeping a good reputation has to be taught. You can try to have this video removed but millions of people copied it as soon as they saw it for that very reason — because it may be gone at any second. Soon as it left that cell phone, it was in cyberspace –forever.

    I am not condoning or condemning anyone but that vid is permanent. It’s best she move, change her name and go on with her life.

  11. You had to bring race into it didn’t you. Well heres a thought where are her parents and where did she learn about “head”. You can thank them. It’s not cause shes black that she’s sucking dick it’s cause she wasn’t taught morals. Leave the race shit out of it

  12. First and foremost if you read her tweets she posted via Twitter she stated that this was her first time doing it… the boy she was doing it to was the boy she had recently lost her virginity too, someone she loved and wanted him back and was willing to do anything them prove to him she did love him. she is just nieve and has no proper guidance but where are the parents to teach this child that a man is not important enough to degrade yourself especially at a young age!

    • Where are you finding her posts? I would like to find them and give her some support.

      Often young girls fall for some kid and them give up their virginity and get dumped and do these things to win the bastard back and end up like this.

      Meanwhile the world has her pegged as a pig from hell.

      Poor kid will be paying for this mistake for the rest of her life – no doubt- and it is societies fault not hers!

      We have to do more about teaching these girls that rap crap is destroying them. There is no respect for females in our society and females get sexualized from birth to death – bombarded with sexualization from everywhere – what else are they to know but that they are good for nothing but sex. Just look at the messages they get from the minute they are born !

      • I was following her on twitter but she had deleted both Her facebook Page and Twitter. It’s so sad!

        • Have you been following the comments here? I am allowing them so we can see how really sad this is! I hope Amber and other girls learn that it isn’t worth it and that these boys are ruthless, disgusting dirtbags! Too many girls are used and abused by boys in this way and perhaps Amber has become the poster child to teach all girls to stop doing boys who are just using them as a new form of masturbation. No female should ever allow herself to be a toilet bowl!

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        • It really is, because she was getting support as much harassment on twitter.

  13. I am really amazed at the replies I got on this blog- I can see that we have really deteriorated as a country! No one here seems to give a damned that a young girl giving head is being broadcast all over the world!

    Are you not getting the point here? Are you not grasping the fact that a female is being used as an object and a joke? Do you not get that it could be your daughter next that some guy thinks nothing of using and abusing?

    What the hell is wrong with you people? Whatever this girl did she is a human being and does not seserve to be treated like this? The males looking at this are viewing all girls as nothing but objects because of it! Rape happens every 6 seconds because of video’s like this! Children are forced into these acts because of video’s like this!

    The video is dangerous- nevermind laying blame on the kid – we must be outraged that it is going viral as if it is a joke. This is serious – don’t you get it?

    • yet, by bringing it up, you’re causing it to go more viral.

      was she raped?
      was she forced to do it?
      why did she create a twitter afterwards?

      this should’ve been something her parents handled not discussed all over the internet. regardless of your stance, this should’ve been a private not a public matter.

      (also, bettyjean, don’t hate on rap. have you ever listened to it? just because you might be familiar with the popular stuff that took 2 minutes to make in some dude’s basement, doesn’t mean the entire genre is bad. and, if you’re going to play that card, why not bring up women’s pop music…watch a britney spears, rihanna, or katy perry video. they’re all scantily clad and objectified. why not blame them?)

      and, i’m still willing to help you get healthier. diabetes, heart disease, etc are expensive to take care of. seriously.

  14. wow

  15. I found an article which shocked me just as much as this whole Amber Cole thing. Check out my blog and read The Secret Sex Lives of Kids

  16. Some of you commented on her not knowing that she was being videoed but regardless of this fact she still chose to participate in this sexual act with this young man in front of on lookers in a public setting.
    Is she a victim? Is she mentally stable? Was she Forced or bullied into this? Why did she feel that this was all that she’s worth? And of course does she think that This will make him Love and RESPECT her? I’ve asked my self these questions and more. People Something has gone terribly wrong in our society… We need to get back to the basics our KIDS are suffering!

    • Have you noticed the tone here about this poor kid? She is being demonized! Many seem to know what she is what she did and why she did it and they even know who I am and why I posted this ! Those folks are the reason our society has deteriorated like it has – they have lost sight of the bigger picture here !

  17. Its obvious to me that you are using this young girls situation as propaganda to push your female chauvanistic views. This is not about a young girl being recorded and spread around the net its about these vile beings (males) taking advantage of her. In all reality she wasn’t taken advantage of. The individual she is fellating is a minor as well, these aren’t grown men that out witted a child. These are peers of hers. They technically develop slower than she does physiologically so why is she the victim and not him? Are they both willing participants? From what I’ve heard they are. Those bra burning days are over lady, let them go. You can’t scream equality and then say this girl is being victimized because she had consensual oral sex with some one her own age. It doesn’t work like that, women aren’t puppies you are just as intelligent as men are and should be held to the same standard. Next time, and believe me there will be a next time she’ll know not to let his friends around. Rap music has nothing to do with it either, and your comment about is just more evidence your true agenda is not this young ladies well being.

    • I dont think anyone is saying she has been ‘victimised’ because she did this. I’m sure she has done it before and I really dont care about how she chooses to lead her life. What I do care about that since this video was posted on the internet as a joke it has been spread around and has been viewed by so many peopl yet it is still child pornography. it is a video of two children performing a sexual act. what about that isnt getting through to people?

    • Da Man, you haven’t got a clue! I am not going to waste my time defending the indefensable with you!

      • I didn’t think you would Ms. Bettyjean. Further proof to my point. It’s not that you don’t want to “waste time defending the indefensable”, it’s that you have no response to what I’ve said. See my post below for some of the things you should ask yourself about this whole situation before you start the bon fire and start tossing in under garments.

  18. Where I am from, this qualifies as statutory rape and/or sexual assault on a minor, regardless of whether she consents or not and regardless of whether the willing male is also 14. She is a minor, can she make a mature decision yet? From her conduct, I guess not. The clip also qualifies as child pornography.

    The fact that she knew she was being filmed is irrelevant. Period.

    My question is, which mofos put this video on the internet? Amber Cole should be given life counselling, but these @$^&&%$$# who put the video on the net should be prosecuted for distributing child porn!

    The sad thing is, I am sure there are paedophiles all over the world right now “polishing the rocket” to this clip. Disgusting!

    BettyJean, keep up the good work.

  19. @presjzuma this is exactly what I’m talking about. How is it a 14 year old female isn’t old enough to make a mature decision to have sex with another 14 year old and is called a victim, but a 14 year old male can face legal repercussions for making that same decision…absurd.

    As for the child porn issue, I haven’t seen the video nor do I want to. But has there been an investigation into this? I mean something isn’t child porn just because the title says she’s 14. For all we really know these are 2 co senting adults and some perv sent the clip out with the title. Additionally are there any genitalia shown in the clip? And I ask because if not it may be simulated. Hollywood simulates children in sexual situations frequently, its not child porn.

    Here’s the point we can’t just jump to comclusions on issues like these. Do children need to be protected from exploitation, absolutley. Jumping and saying she’s a victim of these boys that were praying on an innocent female, hardly. Rap music inffluenced her behvior, get real. I applaud the blogger for bringing attention to the fact that this may be cp and if so it needs to stop being distributed and someone needs to go to jail…and I don’t mean the kids in the video. But I don’t respect the blogger trying to push her own agendas disguised as her want/need to help this young girl.

    • DaMan,

      If you bothered to read my many articles “Sexualizing America” 1-14 you would know that I blame the media Inc rap music for teaching girls and boys to view girls as sexual objects from birth to death.

      I have never blamed boys any more than girls for that view because they are born seeing it no other way – its normal for them to think so since they are barraged with it everywhere they look and everything they see and hear.

      So get off your friggen soap box- I have sons and grandsons that I adore and I am far from a man hater- I just don’t want boys and men spoon fed that females are nothing more than sex toys to be used and abused, nor do I want my daughters and granddaughters to think that is their only use in life.

      If you have a problem with that- that’s your problem- we all have a right to have our own views! Raise your kids your way and I will raise my kids mine. If you don’t mind your daughters being called bitches and ho’s have at it- I mind! If you don’t mind your daughters grinding around to fifty cent songs like “candy shop” – knock yourself out- I mind! I won’t raise my lovely granddaughter to be singing “suck it till I pop”, will you?

      • I haven’t read your SA 1-14 articles but I will when I have some time to. Its funny that out of the questions I posed in my previous post the only one you focused on was rap. In one of your earlier posts you specifically state rap as one of the influencing factors in this girls life. You didn’t say the entertainment industry you said rap. Additionally when another poster pointed out that its not only rap but also the Brittney Spears’ on tv, you completely ignored that comment.

        Now I’m not going to go through this article cutting and pasting lines where you attacked the males in the video and specifically called the girl a victim of them because as much as you deny it you know they are there and people readingbthis have read them.

        Females are not the only ones being sexualized in our society today and the fact that you imply they are is ridiculous. You can’t turn the tv on without seeing something about sex whether its male or female. The point is its totally natural for teens to be curious about sex and try it, I did and millions of others did and statistically your children probably did as well. Is this the entertainment industries fault? No way. Parenting fault? More than likely. I was taught from a young age entertainment is just that, entertainment. Was I curious about sex in middle school, absolutely, as was every other student females included.

        Now back to facts…
        Sex is fun regardless of gender. Women shouldn’t be told having sex means a man is using them. Is that possible, sure, can women use men for sex, sure, and they do.
        We don’t know if this is child porn or adults in a video that was mislabeled.
        We don’t know if this is real or fake.
        We don’t know if Amber Cole is a real person or not.
        Why don’t we try to figure these things out before we start convicting people and industries.

  20. Sexualizing America 1 of 12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/09/16/sexualizing-america-1-of-12/
    Sexualizing America 2 of 12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/09/20/sexualizing-america-2-of-12-2/
    Sexualizing America 3 of 12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/09/26/sexualizing-america-3-of-12/
    Sexualizing America 4 of 12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/09/28/sexualizing-america-4-of-12/
    Sexualizing America 5 of 12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/09/28/sexualizing-america-5-of-12/
    Sexualizing America 6 of 12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/10/17/sexualizing-america-6-of-12/
    Sexualizing America 7 of 12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/10/19/sexualizing-america-7-of-12/
    Sexualizing America 8 -12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/11/01/sexualizing-america-8-12-2/
    Sexualizing America 9-12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/11/08/sexualizing-america-9-12-2/
    Sexualizing America 10-12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/11/13/sexualizing-america-10-of-12/
    Sexualizing America 11-12 https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/11/15/sexualizing-america-11-of-12/
    In the land of the free and the home of the brave https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2009/01/01/in-the-land-of-the-free-and-the-home-of-the-brave/
    Beastiality: On Primetime TV? https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/01/10/beastiality-on-primetime-tv/
    Sexploitation of seven year olds https://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/05/12/sexploitation-of-seven-year-olds/

  21. This is the thing…Amber Cole should be talked about. I mean….don’t get me wrong, who doesn’t give head????? BUUTTTTTT…..she had no self respect or common sense. For one, she did it in a public place. For two, she did it around others. common sense would of told her she would be exposed. So she is getting what she deserves. She is only 14. I’m grown so I have the right to say she is too young for that and I was raised correctly. I don’t understand what was in her head. It’s her own fault..!! I mean any female with self dignity and respect wouldn’t do that in public, or with people around, and I bet she doesn’t even know lil dude that well, they have no love between eachother, so everything she did is WRONG. They are wrong for posting it, but common sense should have told her not to do it to began with.

  22. This is the thing…Amber Cole should be talked about. I mean….don’t get me wrong, who doesn’t give head????? BUUTTTTTT…..she had no self respect or common sense. For one, she did it in a public place. For two, she did it around others. common sense would of told her she would be exposed. So she is getting what she deserves. She is only 14. I’m grown so I have the right to say she is too young for that and I was raised correctly. I don’t understand what was in her head. It’s her own fault..!! I mean any female with self dignity and respect wouldn’t do that in public, or with people around, and I bet she doesn’t even know lil dude that well, they have no love between eachother, so everything she did is WRONG. They are wrong for posting it, but common sense should have told her not to do it to began with.

  23. But then again..People know how people are..if something like that is posted…of course she is going to catch hell about it. Point blank period. She’s young too and the whole set up of everything that happened (the people around, the public area, age, etc) makes it worst. So people her age aren’t going to let her live it down and grown people aren’t either. But it is HER fault. she made HERSELF look bad. So can’t no one say leave her alone, that’s what happens. Human nature. People are going to talk and laugh. People are immature and something is mentally wrong with her for doing this in the first place. Man I wouldn’t defend her period, but I am not going to be immature and bash her lik everyone else either….so…it is what it is..!!

  24. OK jackass – read the statement again!!! I was not talking about the boy involved with the girl in the sex act. I was talking about the boys who shot the video and then passed it around and the boys here commenting on the girl! Let me post the comment again and this time read the damned thing!

    ” The only reason I am allowing these ( I will put the comments I am referring to below) to remain here is to show the quality of the boys involved and the thoughts they have about the females they hang with.

    Perhaps if young girls know what they guys really think of them – the girls will think twice before the give in to casual sex with them.

    Just read the comments of this young guy re:

    “everybody gives head” and “kneework” “slut “”

    Here is the comment I clearly was referring to- Too bad you can’t read in proper context!

    “stuckfresh, on October 18, 2011 at 2:19 pm said:
    WTF is this bitch talking about?? Amber was sucking dudes dick with his 2 homeboys was standing right there in the back of the school and she surprise this shit happen?? She’s a fucking slut not for giving head cause everybody does that but for letting his homeboys stand there while she puts in that kneework!! FREAK BITCH PERIOD!!!”

    I don’t purge comments as I believe in freedom of speech but I also have freedom of speech and I was commenting on the types of guys who come here and call me a BITCH and then call her a slut – and how they feel about feales and casual sex.

    • Not even close to being on the same page and I’m starting to believe your book may be a few pages short. Firstly let me correct you, I never said the phrase “sucking on dick”. You may have me confused with one of the other posters. I believe I referred to her sex act as, “fellating”. Go back and look again, its there. Secondly there is no need for name calling.

      ” The only reason I am allowing these ( I will put the comments I am referring to below) to remain here is to show the quality of the boys involved and the thoughts they have about the females they hang with Perhaps if young girls know what they guys really think of them – the girls will think twice before the give in to casual sex with them.” – Now I’m not an english major or anything but this statement certainly implies that all guys think poorly of women and that “girls” not “the girl in the video” should be weary because we’re all out to get them. Oh wait! Did you mean you left those comments specifically so the boys that recorded her and the two poster’s female associates could come here and read those comments? Yeah doubtful.

      I think you misunderstood the context of Mr. Stuckfresh’ comment. Did he use unnecesary language? Yes he did I will agree. What he is saying is, she is not a slut for giving her supposed boyfriend oral sex. She has been lumped into the slut category for doing it in front of his friends whether she knew they were recording or not, she knew they were there. That is, and I’m sure you agree, slutty behavior. All you paid attention to was his vernacular as opposed to the statement he made.

      “We have to do more about teaching these girls that rap crap is destroying them.” – Your words not mine. Not entertainment and advertising…rap.

      “Rap is the crap that actually tells girls they should be sucking on Dick as you so eloquently put it.” – You obviously heard a few songs on the radio with some suggestive lyrics and came to the conclusion that all rap says the same thing. You are partially correct, some rappers do say things like that. As do some rock stars and actors for that matter. Does that mean the whole genre is chauvinistic? Based on what I’ve seen here i’d be willing to wager you heard the word bitch in a song and without paying attention to the rest of the lyrics or not understanding them, you assumed they were degrading a female. Well Ms./Mrs. Bettyjean let me be your hip hop ambassador for a moment. The word bitch has several meanings in the world of hip hop. It can be used to describe a woman, a car or other property, a man, it can be used as a term of excitment as well; i.e. I’m happy as a bitch! Please don’t be afraid to listen to more rap as you will find only about 5% of it is the trash you talk about here. I can recommend some excellent rappers that have brilliant messages if you’re interested…just let me know ok? *wink*

      “…sign posts so that girls actually think they are nothing but sex objects and then we blame them because they think the only way they can be important or famous is to act like it?” – Unlike you ma’am I refuse to believe that women are stupid. Or young girls for that matter. Young ladies are just as smart as there male counterparts and know slutty behavior from non slutty behavior. I can all but gauruntee this young lady (if she is even a young lady, which we still don’t know and you keep avoiding) did not listen to a rap song or watch Brittney spears on tv, or see a bus with a half naked guy or girl on it and say to herself, “Oh I’m gonna go give John a bj while his friends watch”. You keep saying the problem with society today is blah blah blah. The real problem is that everyone is looking for scapegoats instead of holding people responsible for there actions. Even when there was no rap and no sexualization on tv or radio kids were still experimenting with sex, and they were smart enough not to do it in public, like most kids today. But you can bet your bottom dollar there were still sluts that had bad reps. I bet you can recall a few from when you were a kid. Kids havent changed. The only people to blame here are her and her parents, and the boys and their parents. Not tv or advertising, or music.

      Now I feel we have gotten away from the point with our debate. Here it is: This should definately be investigated and parties responsible for its distribution should be arrested and charged IF it does in fact turn out to be authentic. I believe we can atleast agree on that.

      Well Betty Jean I’ve tired of our little back and forth for now so, while I’ll read any reply you write if you take the time to do so ,don’t expect a reply. And I was serious about those rappers if your willing to stop being ignorant on the subject of hip hop! Cheers!

  25. DaMan,

    Read my comments from the beginning before you say I only picked on rap –
    Rap is the crap that actually tells girls they should be sucking on Dick as you so eloquently put it, but I clearly placed the blame on a hell of a lot more than rap crap. Look at my second comment! I directed it to Donut:

    “What have we come to in this country when our kids are born into a place where sex is delivered to them non-stop 24/7 via radio, TV newspapers, magazines and its plastered all over the buses and on the sign posts so that girls actually think they are nothing but sex objects and then we blame them because they think the only way they can be important or famous is to act like it?

    What are their role models telling them? And now here you and others come and say it’s their own fault! No Donut- its your fault! Yours and others like you who allow the sexualization of women and girls as if it is ok and then blame girls for emulating what your kind have normalized!

    Shame on you and others like you! Girls like Amber are getting mixed messaged and need our guidence not your scorn! You make my stomach turn!

    On we on the same page yet?

  26. “I hope Amber and other girls learn that it isn’t worth it and that these boys are ruthless, disgusting dirtbags! Too many girls are used and abused by boys in this way and perhaps Amber has become the poster child to teach all girls to stop doing boys who are just using them as a new form of masturbation.”

    I just couldn’t resist posting one more of your man hating quotes that you claim you never said. Ok, really this time…Cheers!

    • Da Man,

      You are becomming a pain in my neck! Nit picking in and out of my conversations. I hate rap crap and most of it is filth – I am not going to debate it with you. Furthermore you and I don’t agree on anything and there is no point in continuing this discussion with you at all, so I ‘m not going to !
      You da man – so go be happy!

      • Da Man,

        You’re only becoming a “pain in her neck” because you speak the truth. BettyJean is obviously handling her situation immaturely with name-calling and cyber-bullying (strange, as it is, that Amber Cole is a victim of cyber-bullying, yet, it is her fault for putting herself out there in the first place, regardless of whether there was a camera filming her or not, she still performed a sexual act with at least two boys, if not more, watching her do so). And me, being a year older than Amber, would most likely have a better grasp of the situation and what’s happening with this girl, as people of the same generation usually think similarly.

        @BettyJean

        You also stated that Da Man was “nit picking in and out” of your conversations. You’re (somehow) unknowingly taking some of the information Da Man provides and criticizing his less important views, and you’re ignoring the “big picture” of his views, which are mostly well-thought out facts and strong opinions (a better word being “assumptions”, as most would assume that it is Amber’s fault in its entirety). BettyJean, you are clearly a feminist rights supporter (as it strongly shows), and I’m not listing examples because you most definitely know what you posted. Besides, I wouldn’t want to be caught in one of your name-calling scenes with poor grammar usage (even though the reply box clearly shows when you misspell a word). You are obviously an ignorant, stubborn person who can’t admit when she’s been proven wrong. Have a great day!

        • Another sad thing about you BettyJean, I’m a teenager, and I’m behaving more appropriately than you. Also, I wouldn’t comment back if I were you, as your comment will prove nothing since you will only defend yourself and criticize me, besides the fact that you will disregard the Amber Cole situation entirely. Thank you.

  27. i think that she wrong for that and she know that them boys was videoi tapping is she a slut or wat

  28. Da Man, well said, but I’m afraid it was all in vain… a futile attempt to reason with ignorance.

  29. Like Snitch.. Yhu Should Be A Police It Wasnt None Of Your Buisness

  30. That is just wrong even tho I have not seen the video reading this and hesring the song it made wanna know is it true but they need to stop yeah she did a terrible thing for her age but someone putting tht on the internet is even more wrong cuz they did tht and worst of all they put her name I just don’t get it if that happend to the people tht posted it they would probally be in the same position tht miss amber cole is

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