Freedom of Choice Deserves Equal Time

Another Rant by BettyJean Kling

I am befuddled!

Pro-Choice Americans want the opportunity to have choices about what to do with their own bodies but it appears they mean only if their choice to have an abortion. Doesn’t Pro- choice also include the choice not to?

Pro- Choice women do not want government dictating what a woman can or cannot do with her body! Fair enough? Here are two cases tell me please why we fight like hell for one woman’s right but refusing the other woman’s option equal time instead of covertly and overtly disrespecting what Mrs. Tebow, and millions of other women have chosen to do in the same  circumstances. 

In Florida, a woman presented herself to an emergency room with false labor at 7 months. The Doctor finding her baby to be in serious condition, asked her to remain in the hospital in bed rest to save her child. When she refused the doctor obtained a court order maintain the child was in danger – the court agreed this was a case of child endangerment as she was in her 7th month and she would surely miscarry if she left. The judge agreed with the doctor.

Indeed, the pregnancy was precarious and her baby died within a few days. The woman is now suing believing she had a right to live as she liked regardless of the welfare of the unborn child.

ACLU Asks Florida Court To Protect The Rights Of Pregnant Women To Refuse Medical Care

Tallahassee, FL – The American Civil Liberties Union and the ACLU of Florida today filed a friend-of-the-court brief opposing the state’s decision to force a pregnant woman to remain hospitalized against her will.

“Women do not give up their right to determine the course of their own medical care when they become pregnant,” said Diana Kasdan, a staff attorney with the ACLU Reproductive Freedom Project. “Faced with similar cases, courts throughout the country have made clear that pregnant women have a right to make decisions about their own health, including refusing medical care.”

In March 2009, the Circuit Court of Leon County ordered Samantha Burton – a mother of two suffering from pregnancy complications – to be indefinitely confined to Tallahassee Memorial Hospital and forced to undergo any and all medical treatments deemed necessary to save her fetus. After three days of state-compelled hospitalization, Ms. Burton suffered fetal demise and was released from the hospital.

“We should all be alarmed by Florida’s wholly unwarranted intervention in Samantha Burton’s care,” said Randall Marshall, Legal Director of the ACLU of Florida. “Not only is it unconstitutional for the state to override a pregnant woman’s decision to refuse medical treatment, but the medical community, including the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the American Medical Women’s Association, and the American Medical Association, strongly advises against it.”

According to the ACLU’s brief, “f the decision below stands, it invites State requests for court intervention in nearly all aspects of pregnant women’s behavior and medical judgments. In turn, some women will be discouraged from coming to a hospital for pregnancy care if they know that any disagreement may lead to forced medical treatment. Such a result does not advance maternal and fetal health by any measure and is not constitutionally permissible.”

On the other hand- and there is another hand– women are fighting to have children in this country. Children are wanted by many women both liberal and conservative and they want them desperately. They want children of their own and if not they will adopt unwanted children. They are traveling to other countries to adopt children. They eagerly lay in bed for months if necessary to avoid miscarriages. I do not understand why this is to be hushed up? Perhaps if we did not hush this up there would be more alternatives for young pregnant women than abortions. Perhaps there would be more adoptions right here in this country.

In either event , here is a story of a women ordered to abort and took a different path and who is now taunted by of all things women’s groups for daring to be proud to have a son who is wonderful! What the hell is wrong with us? What the hell are we thinking?

Women’s Rights groups, like NOW, have begun to call out advertisers and networks for airing sexist and demeaning portrayals of women that lead to young women’s diminished self-esteem and acceptance of roles as mere sexed-up objects. They could and should do more like the outrage they are showing  with  their protest of CBS airing a Family First ad during the upcoming Super Bowl game. The ad will feature Heisman trophy winner Tim Tebow and his mom. Messages like this empower women rather than objectify and sexualize them! This speaks to the strength and commitment and nurturing spirit within women. The message says everything positive and nothing negative about the power of women.

Frankly, I don’t like the message Women’s Goups are sending and this Women’s Group refuses to go along to get along. Our message is Freedom of Choice for ALL women. I would rather see our groups fight against violence against women- sexualization of women- and frankly more women representing us as legislators, in the workforce, as mothers, and free to make any and all choices acess they choose  freely not as lemmings in a group of this half vs that half.

 Wake up keep your personal preferences to yourself and let’s move on  as women united!  

 Timmy Says Thanks and Feminist Women’s Group Scream

Focus on the Family’s first Super Bowl ad featuring Tim Tebow. The Gator’s shining star will appear with his mother, Pam, to share a personal story with the theme, “Celebrate Family.” According to a NYT’s article last week, “issue ads are rare during Super Bowls, partly because almost all the time is bought by marketers of consumer products.”

The topic of the commercial is different from the few issue ads that ran in previous years because it sends a pro-family message. Mrs. Tebow chose life against her doctor’s advice to abort Timmy; her personal decision is now becoming a national controversy.

 The Women’s Media Center sent a protest letter to CBS arguing that CBS should have dropped the ad simply because it was bought for by Focus on the Family. According to Char-O’s the letter states:

         “By offering one of the most coveted advertising spots of the year to an anti-          equality, anti-choice, homophobic organization, CBS is aligning itself
          with  a political stance that will damage its reputation, alienate viewers,
          and  discourage consumers from supporting its shows and advertisers,”

But when CBS chooses to air half-dressed women wrestling in mud to sell beer that doesn’t alienate viewers. Or, when “wardrobe” malfunctions happen on national TV to an audience with children, viewers aren’t discouraged from supporting CBS. Shouldn’t feminist women’s groups be fighting against aforementioned mud wrestling and wardrobe malfunctions?

 Sounds like this is a case of “free speech” for me and “no speech” for you.

Gary Schneeberger, a spokesman for Focus on the Family, said CBS officials closely examined Focus on the Family’s history and found no reason to reject the ad.

“We understand that some people don’t think very highly of what we do,” Schneeberger said. “We’re not trying to sell you a soft drink – we’re not selling anything. We’re trying to celebrate families.”

 And that’s the message athletes should be celebrating—family drove you to your first game, sat on a cold bench and screamed your name above the other moms in the crowd. It’s about time to say thank you. 

 Personally, as a knocked up 15 year old myself, I was urged to abort my Denise. I lost her to Cancer at age 46. I had and lost two other children. 1 son,  Mikie to cancer at age 34 and another daughter Louisa to domestic violence aged 41. And I I would not have missed on damned second of any of their lives – not one! And I think that every woman in this world should have the opportunity to see and hear and learn and decide how to proceed with their pregnancies based on every bit of information available to them before she makes any decision.

Each individual is unique and has her very own conscience- let her have all the information and make up her own mind based on that informed decision – because she has to live with it for the rest of her life! Women’s groups have saturated the this country with  a pro-women message , let’s not have it be a double standard. Pro-women includes motherhood.

The very thought of stifling information tells me that the stifler is hiding something – what are you afraid of? Let the full truth be known and decisions be made. I believe this ad scares the hell out of Pro- Choice women because it shows what would have been lost had this woman aborted this star athlete. Unfortunately for those who chose abortion – that is the truth – deal with it! You have no problem dealing with all the starving – beaten children that aborted children could have been- this is another case. Deal fairly.

9 Responses

  1. Betty Jean, you are a strong and powerful voice for women and girls of all ages. Thank you for being such an honest advocate.
    Women’s groups would do well to allow both sides of the abortion debate to be presented honestly, and devote more time to speaking out against and solving problems like this:




    • You are absolutely right- Real freedom comes with the right to choose either way and not to be skewered for having that opinion. Both sides have skillfully kept the women divided over these issues for far too long and thus the majority has been unable to unite- just as the parties the men and the religions would have it!

      It is time – passed time to stop ths bickering and either both shut up or both be allowed to speak! But it must be equal representation! This was an opportune set of circumstances to show how the same circumstance can turn out – and allow a women to have something to think about and decide from her own heart instead of someone elses idea for her as a woman.

  3. I hope that this message will bring hope and healing to women and not the type of condemnation and ridicule that so many have cynically come to expect. That would be the kind of thing that could truly bring people together instead of politicizing this issue and dividing us further. Anything less would be a disappointment.

  4. I hope so- I have been trying for years! We are 52% of the population – we can do so much if we could only unite !
    This is Our vision. Not one of us can do it all yet all of it needs done so IMAGINE if we all joined forces– and put our talents and energies together. IMAGINE what we can accomplish collectively? I IMAGINE it every day. All for one and one for all. Not one of us should fall not one, not one! The Majority United! The time is now! Yes – this is our vision – it has never been done on this scale – 52% – but we can do it!!.

    Tune in tonight and voice your opinion – I could use the help :

  5. The article states that the pregnant woman presented herself at the hospital, but doesn’t mention whether the baby’s father/ woman’s spouse accompanied her as a demonstration of protection or concern. The State that championed Terry Schaivo intervenes to preserve the life of the unborn child. Could they, perhaps, have inquired after the probability that the child’s sperm donor would take any interest in the health and support of either?

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