Why do the women return?

A Mighty Rant by: BettyJean Kling

Look whose getting all the support! Do you see the abused getting the support? No! The abuser is caught on tape abusing the woman- she has 20 stitches- he was released immediately – he was at her side as was his powerful family and his friends from the minute they could get to her. Who is rallying around her? NO ONE! And we want to know why she is uncooperative? Give me a break!

Rallying Around a Politician Charged With Assault

Kirsten Luce for The New York Times

State Senator Hiram Monserrate and his supporters went on the offensive in and out of court on Friday as he pleaded not guilty to charges of slashing his companion’s face with a broken glass.

Supporters wearing purple ribbons — including a Democratic district leader who runs an organization for preventing domestic violence — declared that the charges were politically motivated and waved signs reading, “Monserrate is pro-choice and pro-woman.”
A political consultant hired by Mr. Monserrate, a Democrat, passed news clips around the courtroom, detailing a 2007 dispute in which Mr. Monserrate, then a Queens city councilman, criticized Queens prosecutors’ handling of a 14-year-old murder case; in the articles, the Queens district attorney, Richard A. Brown, retorted that Mr. Monserrate was “irresponsible” and “ought to be ashamed.”
Karla Giraldo, the woman prosecutors say Mr. Monserrate attacked, stood on the courthouse steps, in a long fur-trimmed cardigan, spike heels, large sunglasses and long bangs that covered the area around her left eye, where she required 20 stitches after the injury. She called a judge’s protection order barring Mr. Monserrate from contacting her — renewed on Friday over her objections — “an injustice.”
“I want to be with my boyfriend,” she declared. “I love him a lot.”
Prosecutors introduced new ammunition in the case at what would ordinarily have been a quick proceeding in State Supreme Court in Kew Gardens, Queens.
Countering a defense lawyer’s request that the judge not renew the protection order, Scott Kessler, an assistant district attorney, gave a newly detailed description of a surveillance videotape from Mr. Monserrate’s Jackson Heights building on the night of the episode, Dec. 19, 2008.

He said the video showed Mr. Monserrate emerging from his apartment and throwing an object into a trash chute, which the prosecutor had previously described in court as a Police Benevolent Association card belonging to “another man.”

A few hours later, Mr. Kessler said, the video shows Ms. Giraldo come out of the apartment with a towel pressed to her face and ring a neighbor’s doorbell, after which Mr. Monserrate yanks her away as she tries to cling to a banister.

After viewing the six-minute video in his chambers, Justice William M. Erlbaum said it showed that a protection order was “amply warranted,” and extended the order banning all contact — even through e-mail or third parties — through Dec. 1.

Ms. Giraldo, 30, who works at a Spanish-language publication called Resume, asked to address the court to oppose the order. The judge denied her request, saying the case was a matter of community concern between “the people of the state of New York and Mr. Monserrate,” not a private matter between the couple.

Queens prosecutors often pursue domestic violence charges even after a victim recants accusations, in the belief that it takes pressure off victims who may fear an abuser will retaliate against them for a prosecution.

Mr. Monserrate’s lawyer, Irving P. Seidman, spoke at such length against the order — at one point noting that he had two daughters and a wife of 50 years — that Justice Erlbaum lamented, “I’ve been on the bench 30 years and this is the longest application I have ever received” on a protection order.

Mr. Monserrate, 41, said after the hearing that prosecutors had discussed with him the possibility of pleading guilty to a nonfelony charge with no jail time. “I said unequivocally no to that because I am innocent,” he said.

He faces felony charges of second-degree assault that could lead to a seven-year prison sentence.


Mr. Monserrate was arrested after his election to the State Senate, where Democrats won a narrow majority last year, and was sworn in after his arrest over the objections of some senators.

At the courthouse, he was welcomed with hugs and cheers by more than a dozen supporters who wore pins showing St. Michael — “They ward off evil,” one explained — and waved signs.
“No one’s going to take our senator away from us,” said Martha Flores-Vazquez, the Democratic Party

district leader from Flushing, Queens, who was one of the most vocal supporters and is the executive director of Community Prevention Alternatives, an organization that she said works against domestic violence.
A handful of people demonstrated against them. 

“I don’t think women should be abused,” said one, Simone Dillard.

Both Ms. Giraldo and Mr. Monserrate say she was injured by accident as he brought her a glass of water after they returned from a holiday party for Queens Democrats at the Queens Museum of Art.

Ms. Giraldo’s lawyer, Glenn Marshall, said on Friday that she was lying in bed when Mr. Monserrate tripped over her shoes and spilled water on her face, causing her to start and bump her face into the glass. No one disputes that Mr. Monserrate drove her to Long Island Jewish Medical Center in Nassau County, bypassing several closer hospitals.

Prosecutors say that Ms. Giraldo told the hospital staff that Mr. Monserrate struck her with a broken glass, and repeated the same story to officers summoned by the hospital.

3 Responses

  1. Betty Jean: I’ve been following your story for awhile. I’m so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter.

    I need some advice. My own daughter called us frantically last night, in the middle of the night screaming her husband had attacked her with a golf club. He had gone out for the night and came home very drunk and angry. They’d quarrelled before he went out and when he arrived, he went to her bed, grabbed the golf clubs and started beating her with them. She fought him off, but only after he’d hurt her badly, and choked her until she nearly passed. out. Our daughter is very lean, muscular, and tall. I’m convinced if she had been smaller, she’d be dead. She had to run for her life out of the house, and could not grab the baby in another part of the house before fleeing to the neighbors to call 911. Her husband then fled before the police arrived, driving around drunk until he started to sober up. The police caught up to him and he’s now in jail until Monday. He did not harm the baby. However, Monday will come and he’ll be released. My daughter has not yet come to terms with what just happened and is wavering about “their future”. We are shocked and cannot seem to convince her to get the “he** out of there”, and don’t look back. They were both working professionals with what seemed to have been a bright future. Now, I can only think about your two daughters and what you, they, and your family has been through and continue to go through.

    Thanks, signed shocked

    • I am so sorry- but if it happened once – it will happen again! the line has been crossed.
      Please have your daughter be safe on Monday if he get’s out – have her insist on an order of protection Immediately and if this has not happened before then perhaps – she can stay in the house and he will leave peacefully for now.
      Please have her call or email me – I have contacts for her to reach out to for help. BJ@Free-US-NOW.com
      I know how shocking this is- to her – to you to everyone! I KNOW!

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